Dear World,
I have one complaint with you.
Okay, I have many, but this one is VERY important.
Why do you sort girls out as belonging to the either-or categories – either sexy or smart, either brainy or beautiful, either intellectual or sexual, either trendy or topical, either stylish or sensitive – like these molds are exclusive and no girl could ever fit both!
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What if I want to belong to all? What if I do belong to all?
What if most of us do belong to all?
Why do you need to cast us, perforce, and therefore, hurt us by fitting us into either of these gendered stereotype molds that are misshapen for our personalities? Isn’t the process of becoming one’s true self hard enough, that you must complicate it further and set more obstacles on the way?
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Why can’t you accept that we can want as much to strut about the streets of the city click-clacking in our pair of Jimmy Choos and an LBD as darting off to the library in the evening in dungarees, a grungy bun, and retro specs for inhaling the magical pleasure of the written word? Why can’t you accept that there are days when we want to relax in baggy jeans, over-sized tees, and Converse, rather than be picky about the options in a king-sized closet filled with enviable items from Marc Jacobs and Zara, no matter howmuchsoever we love ’em? Why is it so hard for you to accept that Chanel, Mac, NARS, and H&M can be as much our spirit animals as Maya Angelou, Margaret Atwood, and Alice Walker?
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Why is it so hard for you to accept that we might as much want to make soul-drenching wild love to the man we love as staying up late afterward discussing the documentary we watched last night? Why is it so hard for you to accept that we do not want to be seen as either a lover or a fighter but as someone who will fight for whatever or whoever they love?
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Why is it so hard for you to understand that in making us choose between your neat black-and-white categories, you are denying us a part of us, our personalities, our souls?
And I am not going to let you do that to me. And I’d like for you to stop doing that to all the girls who make beauty with brains ring true too!
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Who we are isn’t proclaimed out loud by what we wear or look like but only by who we are. And it is high time you broke free of the shackles of representation too.
I want you to accept that beauty and brains aren’t exclusive. I want you to accept that beauty and brains is a combination truly beautiful. And I want you to accept that you aren’t just doing us wrong by locking us in a soul-binding dilemma but doing yourselves harm too. After all, telling men the ‘truth’ (?) about how they need to be aggressive and strong so as to be seen as ‘manly’ has only led you to lock their emotions inside, hasn’t it?
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So, I guess what I am saying is to stop handing down these harmful ‘truths’ to us and set us free to be whoever we are and whoever we want to be. And here is why you should start off with all women trapped in your constraining molds produced in either-or factories:
Because sexy and smart is SEXY
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While we aren’t what we wear – but we do fit the ‘sexy’ label in that we can be leather clad treats as well as the to-die-for companions who you’d give up anything for! We can make those nippy wintry nights fiery with some wild love as well as some warm, stirring thoughts! Coz we can do more than simply tease and touch your li’l man – we can touch your mind and soul!
Because we don’t need to give up our little dress for our BIG ideas
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I don’t understand why these sexist attitudes have carried forth for as long as now, but to put it in the shortest and (perhaps) the sweetest terms possible, I don’t care if you think sexy vixens and brainy babes can’t live in the same body – coz I know them both as they dwell in me. So, I will carry them around with me wherever I go, and let any of them have her way, coz I am fiercest when my sharp stilettos and smart self are piercing through, together!
Because we can turn on your minds and bodies
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I think it comes off as a sorry offshoot of the ‘dumb bimbo’ tag and the culture of mindless f*cking and hookups it has engendered. But honestly, since when did asserting one’s natural need for sex become equivalent to ‘dumbing yourself down?’ Sex isn’t equal to being stupid, is it? Or else your parents………………..<censored>
Because our red lips can speak words that will ring long after we have stopped speaking
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Whether we are wearing a bold fuchsia, a blood red or simply a nude shade on our pretty lips, we can still utter words that make as much sense as Proust or Hemingway! Even if it comes after a few shots! A bold lip does not mean that all they are is kiss-worthy! They are all the words they speak and that’s a TREASURE!
Because we are human and that means we are the universe rolled up in one soul
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We devour glossy fashion magazines as much as those paperback editions of old novels, brainstorm game-changing business ideas in side-slit pencil skirts and razor-sharp stilettos, can unabashedly flirt so as to give you a million butterflies, and then, roll out thoughtful opinions and be much more than a liner, a lipstick shade, or a dress! Coz we are humans – unique in all our complications, and therefore, deep enough to not be contained in any mold you can ever fashion!
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They say beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. But I believe that to see and understand the ‘beauty’ of a girl who lives the beauty and brains combination, the beauty must lie in the minds of the beholder.
Can I expect you to, then, open your mind just that much to accept us, World?
Hoping you’d not disappoint me and a million others,
With Love,
On behalf of all women who epitomize beauty and brains,
A brainy, beautiful woman
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