‘To err is human, to forgive divine.’
This is one of the very first quotes that I learned back in my primary school and it has stuck with me ever since. I have never quite believed in the alluring word called ‘perfection.’ Instead, I believe embracing one’s flaws and mistakes because nothing has ever been perfect. Thus, when someone asks me how to apologize to your boyfriend, I simply smile and ask them to join me for a cup of coffee. Little do they know, they have just started a topic I could write a thesis on.
First off, if you really want a relationship to work, stop acting like your partner should be perfect. Instead, embrace their flaws and imperfections. There is something beautiful about finding messed up aspects of someone and loving him or her regardless.
Now, we’ve all been there. You just had a really nasty fight with your boyfriend and he stomped out of the room, leaving you fuming despite knowing you were at least partially wrong. Now comes the most difficult part: the apology.
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The song, “Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word” seems to play in the background and the task before you seems impossible. Trust me, honey it is not. If you really loved someone, there isn’t any reason for you to get fidgety just because you have to apologize to them.
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If you just rolled your eyes at how easy I made it sound, don’t worry. I have a complete list 10 pointer for you on how to apologize to your boyfriend. Before you start with this list, tie your hair in a high pony, take a deep breath and let the temper down through a long, slow exhale.
Good. Now, we are ready to go.
1. Cool down, woman!
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Yes, we all lose our temper and end up saying stuff that we don’t mean. Before you learn how to apologize to your boyfriend, you need to first chill down yourself. Have you ever seen someone offer an apology to boyfriend when they are still in a fit of rage? Of course not! So, give yourself a couple of minutes to breathe deeply again. Cool down your temper and let your heart beat normally. If deep breathing doesn’t work, sit down at one corner of the room and hug that photo frame where you were smiling with your hunk. This always works!
2. Analyze what just happened
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Now that you are relatively calm, try and look back at the whole situation. The best thing to do would be to try and take a look from an impartial third perspective. This will help you to see where you went wrong. Try to remain unbiased and unemotional. If you find that you did something wrong or acted in a bad way, try and ask your self why. This is your moment of self-introspection; seize it and make it matter!
3. Own your mistake
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This just might be the most terrible and toughest of all steps. When you want to master ways to apologize to your boyfriend, you need to first learn to accept that you are wrong. It is often hard to accept that you are at fault, but it becomes the easiest thing once you do. Pick one of your favorite memories of your boyfriend and then it warm you and take you to a happy place in your relationship.. Now, open your eyes and ask yourself, would you rather win an argument to preserve your ego or keep that guy who melts your heart just by the way he watches you in the hallway?
4. Make eye contact
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Sometimes the best way to express yourself is by letting your eyes speak. You simply have to make eye contact. There is no way you can escape it;let your eyes seek forgiveness. Let your eyes tell him that you are sorry for what you did and that he means more than one silly argument. You should be brave enough to look him in the eye and express the strength of your love for one another. If he is the true Romeo you have been falling for, you will win half of the battle right there.
5. The three golden words – I am sorry
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Just do it! “I am sorry.” You just need to say these words out loud. Once you have formally apologized, there is no room for hidden hurt. Even though you may think that your boyfriend is your soul mate and that he can read your eyes even when they are veiled under the layers of makeup, it doesn’t hurt to be upfront. Once you speak these words, both of your hearts shall begin to heal.
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6. Take responsibility
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Do you really know what sorry really means? A sorry is like a promise that you make, seeking to reinstate the bond of broken trust once again. You have made a mistake and you need to take the vow that you are not going to do it again. Don’t run away from what you say! Make sure that you let it sink in. Accept where you went wrong and let your partner know that you are mature enough to deal with it and move on.
7. Make amends
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Half stories hurt the most. It doesn’t do to almost fix the damage yet recklessly leave a little opening which prevents the heart from truly healing. You need to patch it up completely and seal it with kisses of love. Romantic, eh? You need to make amends for the mistakes you made. A quick meal, a little sorry note, a handwritten love letter… these all serve as promises to never make a mess of your love life again!
8. Talk it out
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Don’t leave anything unsaid. The odds are high that when you will be off to your bed, your guy will look at the ceiling in his room and wonder why you behaved the way you did. So, let him know everything that you are thinking and feeling. Also, le him speak so that you can hear how you hurt him and then assure him that your love for him is way stronger than any of these arguments. You need to win back the trust that made your eyes shine.
9. Kiss and make up
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If you believe talking is overrated, you are really going to love me for this piece of advice. When nothing else works, a kiss always does. Get on your tiptoes and steal the perfect kiss. K.I.S.S. (Keep It Silly Simple). This is the best way to rekindle the old romance and let your guy know that you both are cool. If he kisses you back and his eyes get all smoky like they used to, you have every reason to grin. You don’t really want me to elaborate on what you need to do to make your boyfriend smile and mean it? Girls have always been smart on picking up on hints, haven’t they?
10. Date night
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Finally, end the day on a high by turning it into the perfect date night at home. Plan a little surprise at home. Put on a mushy chick flick and crash in front of your TV set with a big bowl of popcorn and a pizza, and let this romantic night back together seal the deal. With the love of your life in your arms,and sumptuous pizza spread on the table, nothing can go wrong!
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With all of that said, you should never apologize if you were not at fault. Yes, you should be yielding, but two people make a relationship work. Hold him accountable as well, and make sure that your love is a two-way street!
Do you have any experience apologizing to your boyfriend? What do you consider to be the best way to melt your man’s anger? Any tips which you think would be useful? Hit me up in the comments below.
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