The age between your mid-twenties to your mid-thirties is when you think about marriage the most, especially women. Everyone you know is in a relationship with a supposedly awesome guy, or getting married to an awesome guy, or popping out babies with an awesome guy by their side! And your social media news feed is filled with such lovey dovey pictures and status updates that would make you wistful and cringing in equal parts!
With this information overload – which is for the most part should come with a TMI alert – has your brain rambling I want to find someone too, I want to get married too, I want to start popping out cute babies too, I want to have a good work-life balance too, I want to travel the world with my partner too. However, have you stopped to thought about the kind of person you want with you and beside you for this journey you want so badly to embark on?
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Although on the surface, these might seem like not much to ask for from your potential partner. But, not every potential partner fits the bill either. So you need to be upfront about your expectations with your partner. Of course, they will have their own set of expectations from you as well. While some of the expectations you can compromise on, others, you just cannot. So know what your negotiables are and what your non-negotiables are. Be aware of your wants and needs, and what you’re willing to forgo and what you’re not.
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The people around you may do a hundred different things. But you can’t possibly do all of them, now, can you? You need to be realistic about your expectations, without being too rigid about them.
However, this list of your expectations from your partner and their traits cease to exist the moment you realize that you’ve met ‘the one.’ These things become superfluous for the most part. You and your partner will figure out what you can and cannot live without. And when that happens, you would experience true partnership. If you already have this, then you’re one lucky person. Hold onto them tight, and never let them go. And if you’re still looking for someone like this, hold onto hope that the day is not far off when you do meet that one person who makes it all worthwhile.
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The right person may not be perfect or flawless, but they will be perfect for you, even with all their flaws. The right person will love you for who you are and what you are, just the way you are.
And you know what the best part is? You meet this person who makes it all worthwhile, when you least expect it. Stop chasing the idea of ‘the one,’ stop obsessing I want to get married all the time; let it happen when it’s supposed to. Know what you want, what you cannot live without, and just chill. It is bound to happen one of these days.
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