How An Insecure Partner Drains Relationship

by Ruth Russell · April 17, 2019

How an insecure partner drains relationship

All of us tend to get insecure at times, and that is an absolutely human thing. However, when the insecurities get out of hand, things begin to go downhill from there.

In today’s post, we will tell you everything about an insecure man, the signs of his insecurity, how it drains the relationship, and what you can do about it.

When the relationship is new, or when we are too in love, we tend to overlook the flaws in our partners, and that’s okay may be. But flaws and red flags aren’t the same things. If your partner is insecure, and there are signs of it all over the pace, the smart thing to do is to identify those signs and address them. If you notice that your guy is a control freak who wants you to do everything according to him, then, honey, we have got a problem.

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Let us discuss the signs of insecurity in a partner, so that it is easier for you to help them check the same.

Signs of insecurity in a partner

Though everyone will advise you to stay away from an insecure partner, very few realize that everyone is insecure at one point or the other. You will never find somebody who is never insecure. So let us be clear about that. Now that being said, having a partner full of insecurities is a punishment you don’t deserve. No matter how much you love them, you cannot let your partner be the boss of you.

By talking to your partner about their insecurities, you will also be helping them because it is possible that they themselves aren’t aware of their anxieties, and hence aren’t being able to do anything about it.

Here are some signs of an insecure partner:

He will keep making you feel low

When we are insecure, we, knowingly or unknowingly, will keep putting other people down as a defense mechanism. So, if your guy has the habit of constantly making fun of you, and not in a cute way, we may be dealing with an insecure partner. If he makes snide remarks about your looks, height, weight, smartness, wit, etc. then there is a need you talk to him.

He is friendless

Having no friends at all is not a very good sign. If he never even mentions a friend to you, then there is a problem somewhere. He may be hanging out with you all the time, and initially, you might feel great about it, but prepare that in the longer run, he will expect the same from you. Talk to him. In case his insecurities aren’t allowing him to open up to other people (which is the only way to have friends!), then you have to help him through this.

He keeps blackmailing you

Does your boyfriend or partner keep threatening you that they will break up with you? If yes, then you do know how sick that is, right? If his answer to every disagreement or argument is to break up, then we know exactly the rest of the relationship is going to be like. An insecure partner drains relationship, and you need to do something about it before it is too late.

He told you he loves you on the first date itself

No, this is not at all romantic, sorry! If this guy just met you, and told you he is in it for the long haul something is seriously wrong, my friend. This is a red flag of insecurity you should not ignore. If you are out at a restaurant, don’t bother about the main course, foot the bill and leave.

He stalks you over social media like crazy

He will see every single post of yours, comment on each one of them. He even goes ahead and shares your posts because he wants everyone to know that you are his girlfriend. If that isn’t a warning bell, then what is. It is extremely creepy for people to do that, even if the person is married to you. Remember, they are not doing it out of love, they are doing it out of insecurity.

He will keep asking you questions about your ex

He will constantly bring up the topic of ex-lovers, not his but yours. He will ask you very inappropriate and personal questions about your previous relationships. He will make you block your exes on social media, delete their numbers too. He reads your messages, and says that there is nothing like privacy in a relationship, that two people in love shouldn’t hide anything from each other.

He sucks at taking criticism

If your guy has a fragile ego, he will not be able to take any criticism positively. It could be the smallest thing, but he will make a mountain of a mole and behave like his entire existence has been questioned. But when the tables turn, he will not even wait for the drop of a hat to criticize you or even demean you for that matter.

He seeks validation almost all the time

When someone asks you if you love them a million times, then it is no longer cute, is it? An insecure partner needs a proof, an authentication of love all the time, or else they start questioning the validity of the relationship. This annoying habit is definitely one of the top 10 signs that your partner is an insecure mess.

He tries to be the alpha male

If a man needs to be a man all the time, there is a problem. It is a sign of toxic masculinity, and should never be tolerated at any cost. Actually it is a defense mechanism, where the guy is trying to hide his anxieties by using his masculinity, but that will have horrible repercussions on the relationship and your mental health. You have to talk to your partner about this before it is too late.

Most of the time you are with them, you feel suffocated

Many people say that their partners leave them breathless, and that’s a great thing, but being suffocated in someone’s presence is not the same as that, okay? He is choking you with his insecurities, his fears, and like we said previously, this is going to affect your mental health in a horrible way. Don’t sign up for this. Nothing, just nothing, is worth it.

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