Don’t Start Your Year Feeling Worthless. Here’s What You Can Do Instead!

by Ruth Russell · February 23, 2019

All of us feel worthless at some point of time. Okay, all of us minus Barney Stinson. It could be a termination letter, a rejection from someone we have a crush on, or simply nothing going as planned. Is something in your life making you feel worthless, and you need help to bounce back? Well, here we are to help you with that.

We think everyone should feel worthless at least once in their lives. Why? Because it keeps you grounded, and also helps you come up with a system that will allow you to bounce back every time life throws lemons at you.

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Everyone heals differently. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to the feeling of worthlessness. But having a general GPS is a good start. You can then tweak the journey according to your preferences.

Coming out of a pit of self-loathe takes time

Bouncing back is the second part of the plan. The first part is to heal, and that can take a long time. You have to know that whatever it is that is making you hate yourself and feel that you are worthless is temporary. There will soon be a time when you will not feel that way anymore. You have to constantly remind yourself that you are strong, that you have gone through worse things and come out on the other side with a smile.

What to do when you feel worthless

The problem with getting better when you feel worthless is that you feel you don’t deserve to feel better, and that hinders the whole process of healing. So first thing’s first, tell yourself that you are worth healing, say to yourself that you are fantastic and that you deserve all the happiness in the world.

Here’s what to do when you feel worthless to bounce back:

Locate the problem

To deal with how you feel, you need to know why you feel the way you do. This isn’t as easy as it seems, but it does not have to be that hard either. There are times when we feel worthless and don’t why exactly we are feeling that way. It could be a lot of things that are making us feel that way, but we cannot put a finger on it.

To start understanding why you feel the way you do, sit with a blank paper, and without thinking, judging, or editing, write your feelings down. And then read out it our aloud. You will get your answer.

If this doesn’t seem like a great solution, then try talking to a friend you can trust. Tell them how you feel. By the end of the conversation, they should be able to tell you why you feel worthless.

Now we need to go a little deeper into the problem

Now that you have located the problem, you need to dig a little deeper, and see why the situation has unsettled you. Is it the fact that you consider yourself a failure at work or is it about your relationships? Did your partner say something to you? Or, do you think your relationship is draining you, in general?

The purpose of this exercise is to understand how deep-rooted the problem, because that will help design the best plan to get you back on your feet.

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A journal to count your blessings

Our mind is attracted to negative feelings faster than positive ones. Creating a journal where you talk about the good things going on in your work, will let you train your brain to look at the positive things.

You can make this a regular journal where you write every day even after you stop feeling worthless. Going through this journal whenever you are feeling low, will help you bounce back faster.

Sadness needs to have a time limit

Every bout of sadness should be assigned an expiry date, a deadline, beyond which you promise yourself that you won’t sad, that you will stop feeling sorry for yourself. This might seem stupid, but take it from me, it helps.

Engage with the people who love you

Sometimes we take for granted the people who love us and care for us the most, because we are busy feeling bad about the neglect of people we love. Don’t make that mistake. Go and spend an evening with the people who have always supported you. They could be your friends or your parents. They will remind you of why you are lovely and why you deserve happiness and love.

Get in touch with an expert

We tell this to everyone. If talking to your family or friends, and/or trying out DIY ways of treating yourself isn’t helping, then you need to ask for professional help. Do not think twice before reaching out for help. Mental health above everything else, okay?

How about some inspiring podcasts?

Starting your day with some good podcast that helps you slow down and take notice of the good things in your life, how about that? There are a host of these to choose from that will not only teach you to be more grateful, but will also help you design a healthier way of living and loving.

Reconnect with nature

Nature like books are the best dumpees. No matter how badly you treat them, they are always there waiting to make you feel better and to love you. (That is not your license to treat nature or books horribly!)

Go out for a walk. Develop a healthy lifestyle that involves physical exercise, the right diet and a good sleeping ritual.

Love yourself even if you don’t think you deserve love

“You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. You were meant to be the one. If you can wrap yourself around the idea that you are something incredible, then you will stop excusing behavior that rapes your very soul. You were never meant to teach someone to love you. You were meant to be loved.”

– Shannon Alder

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