Often, when you think a guy likes you, you’re not sure about it one hundred percent. You start to question if it’s even real, or he’s faking it till he can get what he wants from you. It’s become too complex and cumbersome to figure out if the guy you like and is showing an interest in you, actually cares about you or not. It seems like people – both men and women – have become quite cryptic when it comes to making their intentions known.
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Does he care about me? Does he genuinely like me? If these questions haunt your waking hours, then it’s time to get answers, so that you can rest easy. One thing is for sure – for every truly nice guy you meet, you’ve already met twice (or more) as many guys who are manipulative, if not plain devious. So it gives the good guys a bad rap as well. These ‘fake’ guys have made it hard for you to trust the genuinely nice guys as well. Instead of making you happy that a guy cares for you, it makes you wary, if not skeptical.
So you seem to have found a seemingly good guy and he seems to care about you a lot, but your brain is telling you to be wary, instead of taking him and his intentions at face value. But if you keep asking yourself, Does he care about me? Really? Genuinely? Then, there are a few different ways to figure out if he does indeed care about you honestly. Here’s a handy list:
1. Listening, instead of hearing.
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This is a bit complicated to figure out, because many guys pretend to listen, while their minds wander all over. However, if a guy really listens to what you’re saying, he will offer advice. And not just any piece of advice or just a generic ‘everything will be alright,’ but a realistic solution to your problem, then he really did pay attention to what you were saying. This shows that he genuinely cares about you, because he wants to make things better for you.
2. Seeking advice.
Guys are notorious for keeping things close to their chest, not seeking advice from anyone. However, if your guy seeks you out when he’s going through something – professionally or personally – that’s when you can know that he genuinely cares what you think and what you have to say.
3. Introducing you to his world.
Friends and family play an important role in a person’s life. And if your guy genuinely cares for you, then he’s going to make that effort of introducing you to his family and friends. He wants all of you to get along well, to make his world all that more colorful and interesting. By doing this, he shows you that he genuinely cares for you, and that he hopes to be in your life for a long time to come.
4. Fixing things after a fight.
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Fights and arguments are an inevitable part of any relationship. But the important thing is how you handle dealing with it, rather than the actual fight itself. Does your guy make every effort to address the issue at the core of the argument, or run away and go MIA for days on end? If your guy tries to talk about the argument, what led to it in the first place, and try to come up with a solution, that’s when you can be sure that he cares about you and your relationship.
5. Remembering seemingly unimportant details.
During one of your many conversations, you told him something offhandedly. And lo and behold, he brings it up in a future conversation, that is relevantly related. That’s when you can be sure that he really cares for you, because he remembers even the most insignificant of details, just because they’re important to you.
6. WE instead of I.
When he talks about the two of you together with another person, he effortlessly uses ‘we’ instead of you or I. In the grand scheme of things, this might not be a big sign, but it’s an important one for sure to figure out if he cares about you or not.
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7. Being there for you.
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Whether you had a bad day or argued with your mum about something, and you’re freaking out and don’t know what to do. And your guy notices this and he cancels whatever plans he made, just so he can be there for you. If he does so, then you can be sure that he cares a whole lot about you and your welfare.
8. Genuine understanding.
If your guy cares about you, he will make the effort and take the time to understand your point of view. Even if he doesn’t truly agree with what you’re saying or think you’re totally unreasonable, he won’t dismiss you or your thoughts. He will sit and talk to you, because he genuinely wants to understand what you’re trying to say, or what you’re thinking.
9. Genuine excitement.
It’s pretty easy to notice and observe that every time you both meet, he’s genuinely, utterly, and completely happy. And this happiness extends to all aspects of your life – like, you get promoted after busting your behind to get that coveted project done, and he’s there right with you to pop the champagne and celebrate. In essence, when your happiness becomes his, and he isn’t afraid to show it, that’s when you can be sure that he cares about you.
10. Respect comes naturally.
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He respects you, your values, your ideas, and your thoughts. If your guy honestly cares for you, then he will respect you, and won’t make you feel bad about yourself. Respect in all aspects of your life – your boundaries, your morals, your thoughts, your ideas, your family, your friends, and even your work. If, at any point in your relationship, you feel uncomfortable or think he’s disrespecting you and making you feel bad about yourself, then there’s definintely no respect between you two.
11. Near constant encouragement.
If a guy cares about you, then you can be sure that he will be your personal cheerleader through every up and down you face in your life. Whether you’re eyeing for that next big promotion at work, or you’re training for a marathon, he will be there, cheering you on, encouraging you, assuring you that you can do it, that you have it in you to accomplish pretty much anything you set your mind to. Even if he thinks you’re aiming too high or that you couldn’t possibly fly so close to the sun, he won’t ever tell you to quit. He only wants what’s best for you, and he will make sure to be there, whether you win or lose.
12. Treating your family and friends with respect.
If he cares about you genuinely, he will make an effort to get along with your friends and family. Because he knows how important they are in your life, he will make every effort to make a good impression on them. And it’s not just for show either; he genuinely cares for you, therefore he cares every aspect of your life too, including family and friends.
13. Honesty always.
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He’s always honest with you, whether or not it will get him in trouble with you. He knows the value of honesty in a relationship, and he won’t lie just to ‘spare your feelings.’ He knows that a successful, healthy relationship is built on honesty and trust, and that, if he loses either, he will not be in your life for much longer. He also knows that lying might get him out of trouble this once, but it will hurt much more in the long run.
14. Trust is paramount.
Trust is one of the cornerstones any relationship, be it a romantic or a platonic one. Sometimes it’s difficult to open up and trust someone with your weaknesses, thoughts, dreams, and vulnerabilities. But if your guy trusts you to keep his secrets and wouldn’t ever think of betraying yours, even to his closest buddies, then you can be sure that he genuinely cares about you.
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15. Space and time.
A healthy relationship requires both people involved to spend time together as a couple, as well as alone. If your guy cares about you and trust you, then he is all for it when you plan an evening with your gal pals. He needs his alone time, by himself or with his buddies, and if he understands the value of spending time apart, then he’s a keeper.
16. Generous in the bedroom.
Many guys are sweet and caring outside the bedroom. But as soon as they’re inside, they’re totally focused on their own pleasure, leaving you to fend for yourself. However, if your guy genuinely cares for you and wants to make your relationship work, then he will put in effort to make you happy and pleased in the bedroom as well. You see, sex and physical intimacy are very important in a healthy relationship. It he works hard for you in the bedroom too, you’ll know he’s a keeper!
These signs are sure to help you figure out the answer to the question, Does he care about me? If he does, then he will exhibit these signs, and others too, that are unique to him and you and your relationship, that you will figure out. Remember, every guy is different, and every relationship is different, and so you need to figure out what works for you and your relationship.
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