Big Magic: The Magical Power Of Relationships

by Bhavya Kaushik · February 14, 2019

True love is undoubtedly the most powerful force in the world. After all, it has changed the lives of billions of people, inspired artists to create timeless masterpieces, and even ended wars. Besides causing all these evident things, it can also change the way we perceive the world around us. The magical power of relationships is something that none of us can deny.

I have been fortunate enough to experience true love and I can say that it has been the most liberating experience of my life. A long-term and healthy relationship with my partner helped me discover the best in me. To be honest, the change didn’t happen overnight. I can’t distinguish it as a phase or say that I woke up as a new person one day. On the contrary, it turned out to be a gradual process that helped the both of us. We both healed each other by focusing on the good parts and making every effort to move past the negativity.

After all, humans are social animals and we like the company of another like-minded soul. If you are with the right person, then they can end up changing you in more ways than you can imagine. Your other half can literally bring out the best version of you – if you let them. It triggers self-change and leads to a mutually benefiting relationship. There have been plenty of psychological studies that prove the magical power of relationships as well. If you are with the right person, then you will feel happier, lighter, and more fulfilled. Here are some remarkable ways how a healthy relationship can transform you.

It results in self-expansion

This is certainly the most important way a fulfilling relationship can change you. As you spend more time with your partner, you get to learn so many new things. They introduce you to new music, movies, art, food, and so much more. When I was with my partner, I taught her how to cook healthy meals while she helped me with meditation. As a result, we both were able to expand and evolve ourselves.

The more time you would spend with your partner, the more prominent the self-expansion would be. I can easily distinguish the change in me that my relationship brought. I got to meet so many new people and even developed a healthier morning ritual. Today, some of my best friends and healthy practices are results of my relationship.

It will boost your confidence and self-esteem

Needless to say, when you have someone by your side, you naturally feel more confident. You know that no matter what, your partner will always have your back. And that is all we need at times – to have someone by our side for better or worse. It will directly boost your confidence and self-esteem as well. You will start dressing up in a sharper manner and the way you carry yourself will also change. Your partner would be the first person you see when you enter a room and the look in their eyes would mean the world to you.

You feel more valued

We automatically feel more valued when we talk to our parents, partner, and the people who genuinely care about us. Understanding the fact that there is someone out there who wants to know every detail about our day makes us feel better. As we share about our beliefs, views, and almost every other thing with our partner, we feel that we matter.

Our partner makes us realize that our opinion, words, and even thoughts matter. They let us know that we are not irreverent. We matter a lot… in fact, for someone, we mean the whole world. This changes the way we see ourselves and we feel more valued effortlessly.

It will naturally reduce your stress

There are so many ways a healthy relationship can help us in reducing stress. It results in emotional stability and even develops a positive environment around us. We always have someone to talk with so that we don’t suppress our feelings. The emotional stability results in a natural personal bond as we let go of our insecurities, stress, tension, and other negative thoughts.

When you have a healthy relationship with someone, it reflects on you as a whole. Not just that, it will also change your relationship with your friends and parents as well. Humans are the best kinds of stress-busters and your partner can certainly help you get rid of anxiety and unwanted tension in your life too.

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You learn to put others before you

This is something that makes true love so special. If you really love your partner, then you will put their happiness before yours. I have to be honest here – we all can be a bit selfish at times. Right from an early age, we learn to focus on our happiness and what makes us grow. Even without trying, this develops a more selfish approach as we start looking out for ourselves.

Though, when we dig deeper into a relationship, it gradually changes us. Instead of solely looking out for ourselves, we change our focus to our partner. Too often, we put their happiness before ours and are ready to walk an extra mile for them. This reflects in our relationship with other people as well. We become more selfless and value the happiness of our friends and family – sometimes, more than ourselves.

You let go of your bad habits

This is something I can say from a personal experience. I used to be a procrastinator and my place was a complete mess before. It was my partner who helped me let go of this habit. I de-cluttered my space with her help and made a feasible schedule for my work as well. At the same time, I also helped her quit smoking since we both knew how harmful it was for her health.

In a nutshell, your partner could be your biggest inspiration to let go of a bad habit. Sometimes, all we need is a push from someone we love to let go of the things that are unhealthy for us.

You get a whole new perspective

Your relationship will help you understand yourself on a deeper level. You would get a different perspective to the entire world around you. If your partner is from a different background, then the change would be pretty evident. I remember dating an artist who made me appreciate even the chaotic world around me. I got to see the beauty in even the smallest of things and that gave me a different perspective.

Not just that, the way you see yourself will also change. You will be in the kind of situations that you could have only imagined. You will examine how you respond to certain things and get to know your inner self as well.

You try to become a better version of you

Most importantly, you focus on the good things and try to become the best version of yourself. Your partner sees the best in you, and with them, you learn how to move past your flaws. You stop chasing for perfection and no longer compare yourself with others. Instead, you try to help others without expecting anything in return. You start living, not for yourself, but for others – and that changes the game.

Is every relationship magical?

This is something a lot of people ask me when I tell them how powerful a healthy relationship can be. I want you to read the last line again and focus on the word “healthy” because that’s the key to happiness. If you are stuck in a bitter or abusive relationship, then it might cause more harm to your life than good.

For instance, if you are with someone who only sees the worst in you and keeps criticizing you for the smallest of things, then chances are that you would stop growing internally. On the contrary, you would start focusing on your flaws and it might tamper with your self-esteem. Similarly, if your spouse ends up cheating on you, then it can lead to trust issues in the long run.

You need to understand how powerful relationships can be and that your partner can have a permanent effect on your life. Therefore, before you decide to be with someone, take a step back and ask yourself – will this person help me grow? If you think they make you happy and will be your biggest support system, then and only then you should be with them.

Now when you know the magical power of relationships, you would be able to understand how important it is to have the right partner by your side. If you are lucky, then your significant other can be your better half. They can help you add good habits and get rid of the negative things in your life. If you let it, your relationship can be the best thing to happen to you. Just be sure that the person you plan to be with should have a positive influence in your life. Before they become your partner, they should be your friend. If it is effortless, then it will be magnificent as well.

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