We women have notoriously been branded as complicated creatures, who are difficult to understand, and that we are unpredictable. All these may be true to some extent, but then again, these are true for men too, if you think about it. It’s been largely debated about what a woman wants from her man. Is it expensive gifts, or grand romantic gestures, or the little things that melt a woman’s heart?
Although an occasional thoughtful present or a sweet romantic gesture won’t not be appreciated, it’s the little things that really hold a woman’s attention and make you endearing to her. In fact, what a woman wants are the little, meaningful things that their significant others usually don’t think about or even notice, for that matter. After all, your actions do speak louder than words, so you better show your love to the woman in your life, than spout empty words, with nothing to show for it.
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So the next time you want to melt your woman’s heart, look to the following things:
1. Ask about her day.
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Imagine this scenario: You’re already home from work, with the TV on and a couple of beers in. Your girlfriend/wife/partner walks in exhausted, only to slump next to you on the couch. It’s clear that she’s had a rough day at the office, but instead of asking her how her day was, the words out of your mouth are these: What’s for dinner? While your attention is still fixed on the game and your beer bottle in hand.
How do you think she feels? That you’re more interested in dinner and the game than how rough a day she’s had. All it takes on your part is to ask her how her day went. It shows that you’re interested in how she spent her day, what battles she had to fight, what triumphs she experienced, and how efficient she was in managing her team. She’ll feel better for knowing that you care about the small stuff, and are willing to learn more about her.
2. Open the car door for her.
Women may be empowered, independent, and strong, who can take care of themselves, but they still appreciate the little acts of chivalry that make them feel cherished and valued. Yes, chivalry may be on the verge of extinction, but it’s not dead yet. So, even if you’re both past the early stages of your relationship where you don’t have to impress her, these polite gestures mean so much to her.
It’s not opening her car door, but other things like letting her have the last piece of cake, pulling out her chair, letting her walk on the inner shoulder of the road, giving her your coat when she’s cold, and things like that. You’ll know when she’s annoyed by these, because she’ll tell you so. Till then, be chivalrous to your woman.
3. Hug her and kiss her.
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Hugging her when she’s upset, when she’s happy, when she’s mopy, when she’s PMSing – those extra few seconds of you holding on to her mean so much to her. It’s one of the easiest way to show her that you love her, care for her, and value her presence in your life.
Hugging her from behind, tucking her under your arm, hugging her from the side – are all the ways you show your love to her and let her know that you’re there for her, no matter what. Similarly for kisses. The light kiss on the forehead, the one to the corner of her mouth which promises much more, the playful one brushed across the tip of her nose, her eyelids – all let her know that you don’t take her presence in your life for granted.
4. Listen to her.
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Not just saying ‘uh-huh,’ from time to time, while you go on texting your buddy to set up the next game. No. Actually listening to what she’s saying. It may sound like a lot of venting on her part, but be patient. That’s how most women solve problems – they vent. They need a sympathetic ear to listen to them rant.
Also, when she tells you about a problem she’s facing, don’t lessen its importance or severity. It’s big and important and severe for her. So belittling her or her problems, are a strict no-no. Never do that. Show her the common courtesy of actually listening to her talk, letting her know that you’re interested in what she’s saying and that she’s worthy of your attention. Women take this very seriously, so be careful.
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5. Pick up the phone and call.
If you want to talk to her about something urgent, pick up the phone and call. Don’t let idle windows in between texts come between the two of you. If she isn’t busy, she’ll pick up the call and talk to you. Or else, she will return your call as soon as she has time to do so.
Don’t let pride come between you and her communicating. After all, communication is key to a healthy, successful, functional relationship. If all it takes to keep the channels of communication open is a phone call, then do it.
6. Compliment her – as often as you notice.
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While flattery for the sake of it will get you nowhere, genuine, heartfelt compliments will make you a dear in her eyes. After all, who doesn’t like it when they’re told that they look nice? Whether it’s her outfit, or her hairdo, or even the fact that her heels make her super tall and lithe, tell her so. Don’t keep these good things to yourself.
Genuine compliments from her man are bound to make her float on cloud nine. Also, not all women put in efforts into doing their nails or put on a dress often. You just need to make the effort and look for something that really make her look like the beautiful diva that she is. So keeping your eyes open is a good thing!
7. Remember a detail from an old conversation.
So you were talking about her dreams and how she wants to be a published author in her favorite genre. Days, weeks, or even months later, if you remember what genre she wants to excel in, and bring it up casually in conversation, she’ll know that you’re actually listening to her when she talks. That lets her know that you value what she’s saying and you cared enough to pay attention to her.
It may seem like a minor point to you, but even such a simple thing can mean a whole lot to her. Show her that what she says matters, and that she matters to you a whole lot.
8. Hold her hand.
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Yes, something as simple as holding her hand can endear you to her. Hand-holding is such a sweet gesture but it’s often overlooked. Reaching for her hand is still a sign of affection, and it lets her know that you don’t care how cheesy people might think you to be, but that you like holding her hand.
Similar gestures include lacing your fingers through hers, squeezing her hand when you want to get her attention, caressing her wrist at her pulse point, and brushing a kiss on her hand. Nothing says ‘I love you and care for you’ quite like these gestures!
9. Send her random texts.
Yes, sweet ones that will make her go awww! No matter how long you’ve been together, texting her out of the blue that you miss her, will let her know that you were thinking about her when you weren’t with her. That you can’t wait to be with her again. It’s one of the easiest things that will bring a smile to her face. No matter how crappy her day is going, such a sweet text from you when she least expects it will definitely be a winner with her.
She’ll appreciate this gesture all the more because she knows how busy you are, and for you to still take the time out to text her, will warm her heart no end. It doesn’t have to end at these sweet nothings, but also include articles, pictures, and forwards that you think she will like. You know her interests and issues she’s passionate about. So send them to her if you come across such things.
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10. Say I love you to her.
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The more random it is, the better it’ll be received. So you love her, and can’t imagine a life without her. And you think you’re incredibly lucky to have a woman like her in your life. So tell her that! Yes, there’s no rule that you have to tell her you love her at specific times or places or dates. Go nuts and tell her I love you when she least expects it.
If you’re not the overtly verbal kind, then write her love notes. Nothing elaborate, even placing Post-it notes she can find easily do the trick too. Place it in her purse, stick it on her coffee mug, on her vanity mirror – just about anywhere you can think of. These may seem small, but she’ll cherish each and every one of them.
There you have it – what a woman wants, in a nutshell. The little things that men often neglect or don’t think about at all.
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