Hey you,
Yes you, reading this. Has anybody told you lately, how beautiful you are?! Well, yes, that is true, even if you have stopped believing in that. It is high time you love yourself first, little dove. Be kind to yourself first. So what the guy was supposed to be the one; he, of course, is not the only, if you know what I mean!
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I know people have been telling you how he was a ‘typical man’, how he placed his needs over yours, and when time came chose someone else over you. I am not here to tell you this. I am not here to tell you about the fling it was or how any memory of it should have been flung by now. One can only feel used, when they allow the other to use them. By saying this, again I am not asking you to let go of your vulnerability either. Hell, no! Innocence, no matter what, shouldn’t be traded for anything! I am here to tell you that being loved is in your hands! You know what is the only inconstant that separates the people who feel they are loved from the people who struggle for a sense of belonging? It is the feel of worthiness. People who think they are worthy of love, feel loved. That’s it. It is as simple as that!
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What keeps us from forming a strong connection with someone, is our fear that we are not capable of such a thing, after being on the other end of a fling. We don’t live wholeheartedly, not because some man thought we weren’t worthy of it, but we ourselves, believe that there is something lacking in us. We lack the courage to accept us the way we are. Did you know courage comes from the word ‘cor’, which means heart? And did you know, courage is not bravery, but simply, the pluck to tell your own story, tell the world who you are, with your whole heart? The day I learnt this, my life changed, and so I thought it was important for me to share this with you.
We need to let go of who we think we should be, so that we can tenderly embrace who we are. We need to revel in our vulnerability. The fact that we are vulnerable, makes us beautiful. We will never be comfortable with our susceptibility, our weaknesses. But it shouldn’t be excruciating either. It is necessary, and so, we should have the courage of accepting it; the courage to say “I love you” first; the courage of accommodating heartbreak as something inevitable, and not your or someone else’s fault; the courage to invest love, time and energy in a relationship which may not work out. We must stop controlling and predicting.
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Why do we struggle with being ourselves? ARE WE THE ONLY ONE STRUGGLING? Of course not. We are not alone. This is the kind of world we live in, where no one is happy with who they are. We hate the fact that we are obese, we are not smart enough, we are not pretty enough, we are not good enough and so we remain just a fling for someone! And how do we cope with it? We numb the feeling. But there is another way. By letting ourselves be known and seen for who we are, we can love with all our heart without a guarantee that the love will be reciprocated. To love that way is to live passionately, by accepting ourselves for who we are, and those we love, for who they are.
And one last thing, which is indeed the most important, is to be certain of the truth that you are enough, because when you love from the place where you know you are enough, you stop keeping a tally of loving and being loved. You love because it comes naturally to you. ☺
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