It’s common to have second thoughts about a relationship that just ended, or ended a while ago. Introspection does that to a person; there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe you realize that it was both of your faults that the relationship came to a swift end. Maybe you’re filled with regret because now you see how good you had it, and that you broke it off with a pretty good guy for a really stupid reason. So you see, a breakup brings up a lot of emotions and feelings and thoughts that may leave you reeling.
However, if you think that your breakup – whoever may have initiated it – was a mistake, and that you want to get back with your ex, then picking up the phone and telling them that, probably isn’t the best idea. The key to a successful rekindling of a romance with an ex is to make them miss you. To the point where they should constantly be dreaming about you, they should be reminded of you at every turn they take, they should keep thinking of you all day long, wondering what you might be doing and who with, and they should be all excited to get back together with you.
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But how to make your ex miss you and get back together with you? Follow these tips and tricks, and you should be fine!
1. Making a big change.
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Change something big in your life, something that is totally not you. Think big in that something that you’ve never done while you were with your ex. Finally having the courage to quit your job and pursue your passion like you’ve always wanted to, selling your old beat up car for a sleeker version, or even traveling solo, if that’s something you’ve never done before.
In these days of living on social media, you’re bound to announce this big change on there, making it a point that news of this new, big change in your life reaches your ex. Such a big change will signal to them that you’re moving on with your life, and that you’re not wallowing in self-pity. That’s bound to get a reaction out of them, eh? Seeing these positive changes will make your ex want to be closer to you, so that they can witness you coming into your own, or taking steps in a direction to better yourself.
2. Telling your ex how awesome life is.
If you’re still in touch with your ex, you have far more opportunities to make your ex miss you than you might think! Every opportunity you get, make sure to convey to your ex how awesome your life is. It’s typical for people to crawl into their shell and cry their eyes out, while devouring large tubs of their favorite ice cream. However, if you’re set on making your ex miss you, and thereby initiate things to get back together with them, then give them the impression that you couldn’t be happier, that your life is going exactly the way you want it to.
Express how happy you have been, and share all the positive things that have been happening in your life. Whether it’s text or call or a message on social media, let your ex know how much you’re enjoying your life right now. This is as far removed from typical breakup behavior as you could possibly get, making your ex curious, which will only draw them closer to you. Your spunky, and frankly, fearless attitude will only make your ex miss you that much more, and they will be itching to get be a part of your life again.
3. Sending messages through common friends.
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You may have stopped communicating after the breakup, because you wanted a clean break. Or perhaps you didn’t want to remain friends because it was too painful. Or you may have blocked their number, or vice versa. Since one on one communication with your ex isn’t possible right now, have your mutual friends play messenger, and let them know how great your life is right now.
You don’t have to nudge them to tell your ex about your great life, because the next time they bump into them, these mutual friends will spill the beans. However, be careful during execution of this strategy – be careful not to show yourself in an unflattering light. That would just be counterproductive to what you want to achieve.
4. Making new friends.
Stepping out of your comfort zone may not sound like a great idea when you’re hurting, but that’s exactly what you need to do if you want to know how to make your ex miss you. Go out, put yourself out there, meet new people, and make new friends. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to ditch your current and/or old friends. Just that by expanding your social circle, gives you a confidence boost, that is vital to you ego right now.
When you expand your social circle, it will fill you with a new purpose and keep you busy with your plans with your new friends. It’s a successful way of keeping thoughts of your ex far, far away. If you happen to bump into your ex during one of your outings with your new friends, then they will see how happy you are and how happening your life is, and would be drawn closer to you. Who knows, in your quest to make your ex miss you, you might meet someone you hit it off with royally! Win-win, no?
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5. Changing your outward appearance.
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Whether it’s revamping your wardrobe or getting a new, sleek hairdo, go nuts! This might be a strain on your pocket, but it will be so worth it in the end. You’re trying to make your ex miss you, and you want to feel better about yourself as well, post breakup. Make yourself feel like the confident, independent, unique, and awesome person that you are by purchasing new clothes, and getting a new, flattering hairdo.
If you and your ex are in the same city and frequent the same places, you’re bound to bump into each other. And when they see the spiffed up version of you, they’re bound to do a double take! The new you should spark that old attraction back to life, and make them miss you for sure. Of course, when you revamp your wardrobe and change your hairstyle, don’t go overboard – do things that make you happy and feel good; not things that other people say make you look good.
6. Getting your body in shape.
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The best possible shape it could be in. Right after revamping your wardrobe and getting a new hairdo comes becoming the fittest version of yourself. Exercising will not only make you happy due to the endorphins it releases into your bloodstream, but will make you feel good, thereby making you look good. Being in a relationship might have possibly made you put on a few pounds. So now’s the time to get rid of them, and be the fittest possible version of you.
Throw on your favorite pair of sneakers and your workout gear, and work your bum off to get your body in shape. Looking and feeling amazing from the inside out will clearly let your ex know that you’ve moved on from the breakup, and are headed in a positive direction, where you’re focused and know what you want in life. This positive attitude of yours is bound to make your ex want to be in your orbit of influence, especially if they’re having a hard time letting you go completely.
7. Removing them from your social media accounts.
While social media is a great platform to make friends, learn things, and take a peek into others’ lives, it’s counterproductive when it comes to making your ex miss you. So, unfollow your ex on Twitter and Instagram, and unfriend them on Facebook. Cutting them off from your virtual life is the way to go, if you want to make your ex miss you. Now, they won’t have any access to your life, they won’t know what you’re doing and who with, where you are, and how you’re spending your weekends.
If push comes to shove, you can even block your ex from your social media accounts. It’s like a figurative kick to the solar plexus, making it obvious that you don’t care for their presence in your life. It’s as blunt as can be, but necessary too. It makes them curious about your life and is bound to make them rethink the whole breakup thing.
8. Taking a trip.
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Whether you travel alone or with your buddies, go out of town, even if it’s just for a couple of days. It’s the perfect opportunity to get away from the humdrum existence you’ve been living after your breakup. Get a nice tan, take amazing selfies in exotic locales, and let all your worries float away on a fluffy white cloud.
Your ex doesn’t have a snowball’s chance of knowing what you’re up to – unless your mutual friends tell them – they won’t know that you’ve been having the time of your life. Find a way to let your ex know how much fun you’ve been having on your trip. Send them a postcard or a picture from your vacation. It’s the easiest way to show your ex that you’ve moved on with your life since your breakup. It’s equivalent to flipping the figurative bird to your ex.
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9. Documenting your life.
If you think unfriending and/or blocking your ex seems a bit extreme, you can take this route instead. Document every little thing that happens to you online. How to make your ex miss you? By giving your ex a peek into your exciting, happening, and happy life. Flood your ex’s news feed with pictures of you partying with your buddies, going to that art gallery opening, or getting that tattoo you’ve always wanted, or that belly button piercing you’ve craved, or that LBD that flatters your figure like there’s no tomorrow – do them all.
Make your life seem full, happy, and exciting, so that your ex knows that you’re not moping around in your pajamas, eating tubs of ice cream while you bawl at the antics of your favorite characters in the rom coms that you love so much. They will start to wonder how you could have possibly moved on so quickly, and they will surely want to get back in your life.
Follow these tips on how to make your ex miss you, but beware that this is not set in stone. If your ex truly felt that a breakup was the best thing for them, then they won’t be tempted to get back together with you. That, in no way, should dishearten you. Of course, you’ll be hurt, but you’ll get over it. You’re made of stronger stuff than that. Also, there’s someone out there who is just right for you, and who will admire and love you the way you deserve to be loved. Just hang in there, love!
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