A flurry of emotions overpowers you when you first start dating; you’re all excited and always seem to be on a high. But with time, believe it or not, you or your partner begins to take each other for granted. Those effortless little things you’ve always done for them start to seem boring and tedious. Folks, THAT is your wake-up call! Let’s see if you can work out these simple ways to rekindle your love life!

Little things

No one explains this better than John Mayer, why little things make a huge difference. Send them a text saying ‘I love you’ while they’re at work, nothing would light up their day as much as an unexpected ‘love you’ message from the best person in the world.

Leave small notes around the house, which remind your partner how special they are to you! Grab their hand, drag them to the sofa and play a quick game of Scrabble.

Date nights

Go on a romantic date once a week, take turns to plan out each weekend, so that you and your partner can both surprise each other like trying out a new restaurant, or going dancing at a club. But there’s also the possibility of you coming home to screaming kids and barking dogs. So once every two to three months, make it a point to go out of town, stay in a hotel, explore the hotel spa, where you can only come back to nicely made velvety soft beds, draped in satin.

Who doesn’t love a sex life that is loud, wild and unhurried; so unlike those quickies you’ve been getting in those tiny little pockets of time you steal when your kids are out to play? And while you’re enjoying the afterglow cuddled up with your partner, make sure you don’t talk about kids, household chores, or finances.

Do things together

There are a gazillion things to do with your partner which give you the liberty to talk also. Like weeding in your garden, exercising, preparing a dish together, sorting out clothes and the like. Win-win situation! You’d complete your chores plus you’ll have a great refreshing time with your beloved. You could also watch a fun movie at home over a huge bowl of popcorn, talk about it, and laugh at the characters. It’s all about cherishing your time together.

Look good

When you go the extra mile to make yourself look good and feel good, it sends a message to your partner that you’re prepping yourself up for them. So go ahead and throw it all away on that luxurious chocolate wax you’ve only been dreaming of till now. Pampering yourself once in a while makes you feel better from the inside out while also giving you a nice glow – a definite change from the tired-wife/girlfriend look that you’ve come to wear so often.

Pair your tux with a brilliant red tie, and ladies, time to fish out your nude stilettoes from the back of your closet and don them!

Spice it up

Keep that spark alive by kissing them frequently. Wear your thongs under that dress and let him know it. Do some role play, share your sexual fantasies, incorporate novelties like eatable lingerie and don’t hesitate.

Be with them ‘physically,’ enjoying the present moment, instead of listing the chores yet to be done, or planning the grocery list for the next day. For God’s sake, be present in the present!

Relationships work on the ideals of trust, friendship, compromise, and adjustment. It is up to the two of you to gauge whether your love tank is full or not. Don’t lose the feeling of being ‘in love,’ and put some effort to turn those dying embers into roaring flames of passion. Laugh, share, play. Your chores can wait. They will be there when you get back from your mini-sabbatical.