These days, it is so difficult to find someone nice to date; someone who’ll actually love you back, someone who is completely normal and won’t bring down the roof for nothing. Instead, you end up with jerks that either cheat on you or treat you like you are their property. But for once, you’ve found someone that you really want to be with. He seems to be an amazing man, and you’re hoping he stays that way. But relationships aren’t very easy. Why else do you think there are so many breakups and divorce cases? It’s because relationships are a lot of work and not everybody is willing to do that kind of work.
But if you want it to work, you have to be the best. When you think of how to be the best girlfriend, there are plenty of things that you’ll have to keep in mind. Of course, the effort will have to be from both the ends, but for now, let’s just talk about what you can do to make him stick around.
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1. Attention needed
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Oh, yes. It’s just as simple as that. He might love pampering you, but he’ll want to be pampered as much. Keep in mind his likes and dislikes, so that you know it when you need it the most. If he tells you to order food and you don’t know what he generally likes to eat, then he’ll probably think that you don’t care enough. So, just pay him some attention so that you understand him and his personality better.
2. The friends
His friends are very, very important to him. You have to gel well with them or at least pretend to do it. His bond with his buds is very special to him, and there’ll be nothing like it if they like you and adore you. Get along well with them, and you’ll definitely score bonus points.
3. Productive nagging
It’s annoying that women have just been stereotyped into being the nagging kind. Honestly, who likes nagging? But men sometimes (almost all the time), need to be on the receiving end of it. But instead of just pouncing on them, try treating them like a child. Remember that tone in which you asked your mother for a new bike? That tone is golden. Add a kiss to that, and you’re definitely not nagging.
4. Space issues
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This is the oldest trick in the book when it comes to how to be the best girlfriend. Just give him his space and leave him alone for some time. You both might want to smother each other with love all the time, but let him have his own time too. It’s good for both of you. Being over-demanding or clingy isn’t the way to go.
5. Work out
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Religiously. If your man doesn’t work out, push him to do it too. The better you look, the more comfortable and confident you’ll feel in your own skin. As superficial as it sounds, being fit is definitely a turn on for most people. I’m not telling you to be a Victoria’s Secret model, because that is just not healthy; but do enough to look good and feel good. That always reflects well on your relationship.
6. Food is good
You might not even know how to make tea, but if you try to cook him something that he likes, he’ll definitely love you for it. Of course, not all men are crazy about food. But everyone has a favorite dish. Cook him that, and he’ll definitely appreciate the effort, even if the food isn’t that great.
7. Stay off the jealousy games
Honestly, we live in a different century now, so play by the new rules. You don’t have to get your man jealous to get his attention. If he isn’t giving you enough attention already, then he’s probably not worth it.
8. Compliments, baby!
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Who doesn’t like compliments? Men can get insecure too, so complimenting them every once in a while will keep them happy. Besides, why not just tell them if you think they’re funny or if they look nice?
9. Just listen
Men can talk and so can women. But it can turn into a routine and at some point, you probably stop listening to the other. Don’t let that happen. When he talks, just listen to what he has to say.
10. Say ‘thank you’
You both make compromises and do so much for each other. But do either of you thank the other? If not, you’re probably taking everything for granted. Saying a thank you will make both of you happy, so why not appreciate him for every little thing he does for you?
11. Experiment in bed
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Now, this is very important because sex is something that is a part of your relationship. It brings you both closer and helps you express your love for each other. But when it gets boring, things start to waver. All you have to do is please him bed, and he’ll do the same for you. If this means trying new things, then so be it.
12. Tell him when he makes you happy
Let him know what those things he does that make you so happy. Maybe it’s as simple as him playing with your hair; but just let him never forget why you’re with him and how much the relationship means to you.
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13. Get a life
You need to have a life outside your relationship, simply because it is a necessity. Being attached ONLY to your boyfriend will turn your relationship into a disaster, an unhealthy mess. Do your own thing. Let him miss you because it will only make your bond stronger.
14. Surprise him
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Gift him every now and then, send him naughty messages out of the blue, make a fantasy come true or whatever it is that will surprise your man. Travel, pamper him or give him a massage; just keep it fresh and nice. He will love you even more for it.
15. Tank that ego
No, you don’t have to let him be in charge all the time or let him walk all over you, but give him a chance to take a lead at times. Men can be quite insecure, so letting them feel ‘macho’ once in a while will feed their ego just enough to love you more. Just let them know that you need them too.
16. Sense of humor
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Have a sense of humor with him. Make him laugh, pull his leg, and laugh louder when he pulls yours. Being too serious isn’t going to get you anywhere.
17. Smell like a flower, or something
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I’m not kidding. Men love it when their woman smells good. It could be your shower gel or just that new shampoo you tried out; but if you smell too nice, they’re going to want to hold you. Plus, it’s the smell that stays after you’re gone.
18. Don’t track him
You honestly don’t have to keep record of every second of his life, and neither should he. Of course, it doesn’t mean that he can go missing whenever he wants, but don’t track his every move. He’ll keep you updated about his whereabouts if he thinks it’s important that you should know.
19. Team work wins
It isn’t a competition. You both are partners who have to help each other grow and achieve your life goals. Just be there for him when he needs you the most, and he’ll appreciate you for it.
20. Beat the ex
We all compare our present to the exes we’ve had. Your man probably does it too. So, it’s on you to be a better girlfriend than that ex he had. Of course, he is with you because he thinks you’re worth the effort, but if you can do something better than the ex, you’re a winner.
21. Don’t take him for granted
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Nothing is for granted, especially not your man. The minute you stop paying attention to him, the equation changes. He might love you, yes. But if he doesn’t get the love in return, he is going to look for it elsewhere.
22. Careful with the family
Everyone has a different kind of relationship with their family, so you have to figure out his family and then tread carefully when you interact with them. Be yourself and be nice; not much can go wrong if you’re being a total sweetheart.
23. Fight smart
You can’t really yell and scream for every little thing and expect to get away with it. When you both are fighting, just talk and sort it out before you can jump to all kinds of conclusions. And never ever bring up past mistakes/fights to the current one. No one can be more annoying than you if you do that. Just don’t blow things out of proportion, and you’ll be good to go.
24. Compromise
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Both of you do it, but sometimes you might end up hurting him because you wanted things done your way. Once in a while, give in to what he wants to do instead of turning it into a competition of who decides what to do.
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25. Love him
It’s just as simple as that. A man who really loves you will just want mutual feelings in return. And, when you love someone, most of these points come naturally to you anyway. So, love him for real, and you will have cracked the how to be the best girlfriend code.
This is not rocket science, really. All you have to do is care and show some love. Just remember that you both are in this together. You both have to give it your best if you want the relationship to work. So, good luck with that! You can do this!
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