The pace of a relationship is very important and plays a significant role in the success or failure of a relationship. While slow and dull relationships can become really boring, it can be intimidating for either one or both the people involved, if it moves too fast.
You really do not want to be in a relationship that is too overwhelming, and before you know it, it can dawn on you that you are not really in a state to carry it ahead. What if it is too late?
It will only cause both of you hurt and there is going to be no end to the pain that you will have to go through while letting the relationship go!
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We are here to tell you signs that scream out to you that you are moving too fast in a relationship and that you should probably slow down. If you relate to most of them – then lovers, hold your horses!
1. You are constantly thinking about each other
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It is really romantic to be love struck. It is beautiful to indulge in those deep thoughts every once in a while, but you cannot be doing that all the time! If you find yourself doing this, then you really need to control those thoughts. Especially if you have just recently started to date.
2. Even worse, being constantly in touch with each other
You are thinking about each other all the time, which is bad enough. But if you are messaging and talking all the time, then you are maybe going a little bit overboard with the whole relationship thing. There are a few days when you can do it, but if that is becoming your lifestyle, you should reconsider it.
3. You live on a pedestal
It’s okay to be high on love. It really is! But if either of you are putting the other on a pedestal that they don’t deserve, thinking that love is justification enough for that, well, you should rethink this position. We are sure you haven’t even put your parents on that pedestal yet.
4. The love is in the air without knowing anything
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You need to know a substantial amount about the other person to be able to fall in love with them. You cannot just be in love when there is no information about the other person to back the love up. If you love someone without actually knowing who they are, you are definitely moving too fast in the relationship.
5. Knowing too much
Now, you might think we are crazy for this one. But think about it – how many people can just open up to you without really knowing you or vice versa? If it seems like your partner is sharing too much with you, or if you are sharing too much with them, it really might be a bad move. It is possible to scare the other person away and make them think that you are too clingy.
6. You find yourself ignoring your friends for this new person
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This is the biggest sign that you are rushing too fast in your new relationship. When it is still new, you are not only allowed to, but need to, have a personal life. Without this personal life, you are going to be way too invested in the relationship in a very short time. You really do not want that to happen to you.
7. Mixing it all up
We get that you have a relationship that you want to work out. We also get that you need to meet your friends, but they don’t need to be involved in every aspect of your social life. If you are making that happen, then you need to calm down and keep some separation between the two.
8. Marriage talk
This is the biggest sign that your relationship is progressing at jet-speed. If you are still in the early stages, you do not even know if you are going to be able to handle each other for the next few weeks, you obviously do not want to be talking about marriage already. If you are thinking about marriage in the initially stages of the relationship, your relationship is definitely moving too fast!
9. Moving in just because you are dating
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Couples think that it is just fine to move in just because they have gotten into a relationship, but that gets them nowhere. If you both are still not sure of what the other’s dad’s names are, then you obviously cannot be moving in together.
10. Managing each other’s money
Well, this is a rather scary situation. If you have just started to date and your partner knows everything about your financial situation, then things might be moving too fast. We all like to believe that there is no issue in sharing money, and letting someone else in on the details when things get more serious. If you are in the early stages, and are considering getting a joint account – stop it right there!
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11. Your plans are only including each other
If you are making vacation plans, and are thinking that all the plans are going to involve your partner when you are only a few weeks into the relationship – you are definitely going too fast. Make plans to see each other, but not all of them are going to be with each other.
12. Getting irritated that the other person has made plans without you
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Your plans might include your partner, but not all of theirs have to include you. If you get upset about this too easily, you really need to calm down. It is a clear sign that you are moving too fast in your head.
13. You are seeing each other every day
You two barely know each other. If you insist on seeing each other every day, this is a surefire sign that you are moving faster than a cheetah running after its prey. Stop it right there.
14. You are losing yourself and planning the future
You aren’t totally able to be yourself in the first place, and now you are going on a rampage with making plans. While you may not be actually executing all of them, you are really hoping that all of them are going to come true. It is good to be optimistic, but if you do it too early, you are not only moving fast, but you are also going to be really hurt if it doesn’t work out.
15. You are changing your hobbies
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It is good to adapt to the interests of your partner. But you are definitely moving too fast in the relationship when your interests have completely changed. You loved painting, but you now find it boring because your partner is not too much of a fan. If you are unable to preserve your interests and your individuality, it is not the ideal relationship for you anyway.
16. Your honeymoon period lasts much longer than expected
There is always this honeymoon period when you just cannot get enough of your partner. You see each other all the time and everything seems to be going perfectly. But that has to end, and it is usually a gradual end. But if you think that it is not going to end and behave like this phase will last forever, you know that you need to check yourself there.
17. Too many gestures
Romance is great. A few gestures are essential to impress the other person and make them believe that you love them. But if you go over the top with it, you are definitely driving like a Formula 1 racer and right into a place where they might start to distance themselves from you.
18. You take it home with you
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By home, we do not mean that you are sneaking your partner into your bedroom too many nights. That is obviously awesome! But if you are meeting each other’s families and jumping right into family events right away, this might be rushing into things.
19. Everything changed too suddenly
Getting into a relationship changes a lot for many people. There is suddenly this one other person, and everything they like and dislike. However, this shouldn’t change everything in your day-to-day life. You need to be accommodating, but not let your partner dominate everything you do.
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20. Everyday fights from the get go
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Every relationship has its share of fights and disagreements, but it definitely shouldn’t start out that way. If you find yourself constantly fighting in the early days of a relationship, that is a sign that things are moving too fast.
It is essential that all relationships go through the various stages of development to ensure that they do not fail. A hurried relationship can make the couple feel insecure. Therefore, if you can relate to more than 5 of the above signs, you really need to calm down and let your relationship take its natural course.
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