A while ago, when a friend of mine was complaining about relationships and how he’d like to stay away from them, I had just one question to ask him before I set out lecturing him on what my views were on the said topic.
“Have you ever been in love?” I asked.
The question is very simple, I’d like to think. And his answer was, “Yes, I’ve had many relationships and many girlfriends.”
I asked again, this time hinting that he hadn’t really answered my original question. “Have you ever been in L-O-V-E?”
His immediate response was, “What’s the difference?”
And then I began.
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You see you can have a lot of relationships with people, multiple people but it’s not always that you are in love with each one of them. So, technically, I am in a relationship with a lot of people, like my boss, my housekeeper, and even my dog. But in reality, I could possibly say I only love my dog. My boss, I have mixed feelings for him, and with my housekeeper, I have to maintain a healthy rapport. I have a relationship with all three of them though, but I only love and care for my dog. I wouldn’t be bothered about the other two too much. But if something were ever to happen to my dog, I’d lose my mind. I’d be shattered and I couldn’t imagine living without him (although I know he isn’t going to be around forever).
So my point is, we, as humans, could have relationships with a lot people but it’s rare that we fall in love with all of them. Or at least, one of them. Apart from loving your immediate family, the only other person you could fall in love with is your partner or that special someone.
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Love puts you in a trance and everything seems surreal. It’s got that magic no one can escape. People change and become different, things around you look positive. You are constantly in a state of fixed happiness and you can’t be bothered about things (negative) that would ideally soak up all your energy! It’s like dreamland, you see what you want to see and everything else is blurred in the background. That’s the best part about being in love!
A kiss, a touch of a hand, or just the mere sight of someone could send a tingling sensation to your tummy. And amongst these many good things that ‘being in love’ brings to your life, the art of lovemaking is one of them.
I agree that it could be intense when there are no strings attached, but it’s different and slightly better when you’re in love with the person.
There are many reasons to what I’m saying, here are a few:
1. Simply because it’s love
Heck yeah! It’s a different feeling when you are connected on an emotional level. It’s intense and your heart now rules your mind. Like I said, it’s a dreamland, a state from where you never want to be woken up.
2. You don’t feel awkward
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It’s not awkward when you have to bare yourself in front of the person you love. You are going to feel at ease, if you know what I mean. Usually, it takes some courage to go full monty in front of a person you only mean to hook up with. With the person you love, you can keep the lights switched on!
3. No scheduling
Unlike people who are in a no strings attached relationship, you don’t have to text your partner and ask if you wanna do it, or even schedule it for a particular time on the weekend. When you’re in love, it just happens! There’s no fixed time and place.
4. No expectations
Unlike the first time with a new person, you don’t have high expectations from the other person when making love. And this is good because, you have reached a stage where you are realistic for once in your life. You know that perfect bodies only can be photoshopped or be found on adult websites!
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5. You aren’t shy
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Whether you want to try a new position or get really dirty you don’t hesitate to tell your lover that. Also, you are open to letting them know what you really like and don’t like. This just makes sex hotter.
6. Get rid of that embarrassment
As a couple in love, you don’t have to be embarrassed of silly things as your muffin top, stretch marks in the wrong places or strange feet. Love overrides all these things and makes it a pleasant experience for the both of you.
7. Trying new things
A wheelbarrow or just doggy style will be performed without any hesitation. It could be the first time you are doing it, but it won’t feel that way.
8. And not trying new things
So, if you are uncomfortable when your partner suggests trying something new, you can stop them without feeling guilty or bad. You could stick to your routine missionary style as long as that’s exactly what you both enjoy!
9. Love remains even when you don’t do it
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There’s no pressure to do it all the time. Some days you just don’t want to do it and guess what? It’s perfectly alright when you’re in love.
10. There’s more outside the bed too
You don’t have to wake up the next day and rush to the door to do the walk of shame, hoping the other person doesn’t wake up and see you leave with messed hair! When you’re in love, you can stay and have breakfast in bed too! There’s more to your relationship even outside the bed.
11. Better communication
When you are connected at the heart, making love is another way to communicate. This can’t happen in a loveless relationship.
12. Role playing is easy
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We all have fantasies and costumes! So role playing not only makes it quirky but also easier. So put on your Superman cape or the French maid costume NOW, and get playing. 😉
13. Quickies are something you look forward to
It doesn’t feel like you are being used or violated. Quickies are fun and you know the other person means it no matter how quick they do it. You can squeeze in a quickie when you’re pressed for time, and it could happen anywhere in your home – the kitchen (but clean up later though), the shower, the living room, or even the pantry! 😉
14. You know each other a little too well
A kiss on the back of your neck, a playful bite on the ear, or simply holding your love handles. By now your partner knows very well, what works for you. Because they have spent enough time getting to know you and your body, when you’re in love.
15. Talking dirty becomes easy
Right in the middle of it, you probably say something dirty and it’s not awkward. It probably only increases the passion and the intensity. Works well for both, we’d think!
16. If something didn’t work out, you can laugh about it – together!
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Perhaps you missed your balance or came too soon, you don’t have to feel bad about it. You won’t get teased but you both could laugh about it and forget it.
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17. Trust building
Making love with someone you love builds trust. That’s one of the most important things needed to sustain a healthy relationship. Love and trust go hand in hand, after all.
18. You have codes for everything
So what if you both are stuck in a boring party? You could whisper the code in each other’s ears and simply skedaddle from there. Well, that makes it exciting, we’re sure!
Having said that, sex is always great when you both enjoy it. But it’s got a different feel to it when you are able to connect with the person emotionally. In short, when you are in love! So, it makes everything simpler yet very tantalizing.
We hope you think the same too.
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