There are very few things in life which are as important and memorable as a first kiss. You DO NOT want to end up kissing a faceless stranger in the back of a parking lot after you have been out drinking with your friends. You would want to make sure that the first kiss that you have, is with someone special, and executed in a manner that is memorable for you, whether you end up with your partner after all or not.
For those of us who have been there, done that, there are a few things that we would like the newbies at the game to know, something that we wish we had known when we had our first kiss. Whether it is your first kiss with that special someone, or your first kiss ever, it is important that you actually want it, rather than kiss someone because your friends are constantly making fun of you. Another important factor that you should keep in mind before you have your first kiss is that it is a determinant factor in a relationship, and is the yardstick for measuring the chemistry that you and your partner share, in all things. Surprised how much meaning a first kiss holds?
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Here are 16 secrets which can make the first kiss one of the most memorable experiences of your life.
1. A kiss with a build-up is the best kind of kiss
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One of the cardinal rules of life is that sometimes, just sometimes, the anticipation for something good, is better than the thing itself. Now I am not saying that your kiss will not be amazing. It is just that, the build-up to the kiss has to be a gradual graph, so it is best if you start dropping hints in front of your partner (subtly, not overtly). The worst thing that you could possibly do is launch yourself on them without warming or a build-up.
2. Oral hygiene is more important than people care to admit
Now this is one of the most underrated factors that people tend to consider when they are about to kiss another individual. A kiss is one of the most intimate acts, and you must know that you have to be really, really close to that person in order to kiss them. The best way to ruin that kiss is if you have a stinky mouth. You can avoid such awkward situations and make the first kiss memorable by not eating spicy food with garlic and onions and the like, or even popping a mint sometime before you plan to make your move.
3. Your partner’s body language tells you in advance how you should proceed
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If you want to know how to make the first kiss memorable, you need to be able to judge your partner’s body language correctly. See the way their body reacts when you try to get close to them (without the intention of kissing them). If they lean back, or cross their arms or turn away at your advances, then this is perhaps not your day. If they reciprocate your actions, then you can expect a pretty fabulous first kiss.
4. An awkward location can be a deal breaker
The environment in which you are about to do something as intimate as kiss is of prime importance; otherwise, things can become seriously awkward for the both of you. You donot necessarily need to hire a presidential suite with a balcony looking out on the city for the perfect location for your first kiss. Even if you are comfortable in your PJs in your living room, that becomes the perfect location. For example, if you want the perfect kiss, and you are not particularly attracted to the idea of PDA, move indoors.
5. Distractions can destroy not only your kiss, but your whole future
So imagine a scene where you are kissing, and suddenly your cell phone starts blaring Hotline Bling because your mom needs you to get groceries on your way back home. Also imagine that when that happens, you are in the middle of your first kiss. The most important thing is to ensure that you remove the possibility of any kind of distraction, whether it is bathroom emergencies or public places, just make sure that the situation is optimal and intimate.
6. Eye contact gets your partner hot and heavy
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So I know that it is your first kiss and everything, but the more you act like an awkward penguin, the more NOT memorable your kiss is going to be. It doesn’t matter if it is your first kiss, you have to maintain eye contact to make your partner feel like they are going to be on the receiving end of the best kiss in history. All this can be achieved by simply locking your eyes with theirs and kissing them visually before actually making the move. The look in their faces is something you are bound to remember forever.
7. Gentle, slow, and relaxed are the only adjectives you should be using
So naturally, after you have your first kiss, your friends are going to hound you and ask you every single detail of the first kiss. Now you don’t want to be telling them things like, “It was a little hurried,” or “I was panic-stricken throughout.” If that is what is happening, chances are that you didn’t have the ideal first kiss that you had always dreamt of. When you are kissing, you should be slow and gentle and completely unhurried, because the first kiss happens but once, and you want to make your partner feel like you have all the time in the world.
8. An open-mouthed kiss makes things interesting
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Do not be afraid to open your mouth during the first kiss. In fact, it adds excitement and variety in your kissing style, which immediately gets your partner all excited. However, just because I asked you to open your mouth does not mean that you will bathe them in your saliva. A sensual parting of the lips instead of a chaste closed-mouth one is more than enough to do the trick.
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9. Kissing at short intervals heightens the pleasure and experience
Pausing after every 10 seconds of kissing does not act as an interruption. In fact, it makes your kiss last longer because immediately after you have separated to take in some breath, you can lean in again and continue for longer than you could have originally, making it extremely memorable.
10. Constantly thinking makes you lose the moment
I know the pointers are a lot to take in and keep in mind when you are executing your first kiss, so after you have done the prep work, it is best if you let your body and your mouth do all the talking and revel in the excitement of your first kiss, instead of constantly thinking whether what you are doing is right or wrong.
11. Hand placement is key
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A kiss is not restricted to the mouth region only, and the manner in which you keep your hands on your partner’s body is as important as the kiss itself. Whether you place it on their waist, or the small of their back, or their neck or their face, it is these small gestures which is going to lend depth and meaning to the kiss, making it unforgettable.
12. The tongue is best kept in check during that first kiss
Like I said in my pointer earlier, opening your mouth does not mean unleashing the saliva or losing control over your tongue. This is the first kiss, and if you execute it properly, there are bound to be more which will follow, so it is best to not freak anyone out by kissing with tongue the first time over.
13. Nervousness can actually intimidate your partner
Some signs of nervousness like a fast-beating heart, nervous smiles, gulps, etc., can be quite cute and even sensual when you are about to have your first kiss. But there are some evil symptoms of nervousness as well, such as, your body becoming a wooden block, your hands and lips turning cold, too much sweat and many more. It is important to keep your nervousness in check when you are about to kiss, or at least, hide them effectively, so that your partner does not lose interest before even the kiss begins.
14. Despite all the planning, spontaneity is what feels best
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Another celebrated quality required for an amazing kiss is the ability to be spontaneous, when you are living out possibly one of the most important and memorable moments of your life. Do things that you had not planned, except using force perhaps, and make sure that you don’t freak out if your partner gets a little too excited, or something else happens not according to plan.
15. There is nothing wrong with becoming adventurous during your first kiss
A lot of people are under the impression that the best way to execute a first kiss is by making it short and sweet and as unsexy as possible. That is a lie. If you are feeling good about the kiss, and if your partner’s body language is all green signals, then there is no problem if you venture away from the mouth and explore other places like the neck or the jaw or the ear.
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16. Do not make things awkward after the kiss
Now comes the most important secret for the perfect, most memorable first kiss, and that is what you should be doing after the kiss. After you have had your first kiss, refrain from punching the air, whooping out loud, freezing on the spot, getting too aggressive or proposing sex. Nope. Smile, breathe gently, thank your partner, and then do the normal thing, instead of freaking out, because if you do, you are going to remember the aftermath rather than the kiss itself.
Here are the 16 more insightful secrets to a perfect first kiss, as carefully postulated by us experienced oldies. Go ahead kids, make that first kiss as special as you have seen in the movies!
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