Marriages are matches made in heaven, they say. Did that line just make you go “what???” in your head? If it did, then you might be someone who is not very interested in marriage. Going by the standard norms of society, an individual is supposed to get married and settle down by a certain age or at some point in time in their life. Marriage is usually expected to follow after the meet, date, and fall in love way or through the arranged by parents process. Either way, marriage is deemed necessary; sometimes to complete a long-term courtship and sometimes to make your parents happy. And if that was not all, sometimes marriage is made to look compulsory in order to adhere or conform to society’s standards.
But then, there are people for whom marriage seems like a distant idea. The idea of marriage doesn’t excite them, nor does the fact that they have heard about it since their childhood put any pressure on them. For some, getting married makes no sense at all; they are so happy being single! And then there are people who are confused, people who do want to get married but aren’t really sure if they are ready to walk down the aisle yet. So what do you think – are you ready for marriage?
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If you are not very sure about that, then here are 15 ways to know. Go ahead, clear your doubts and read on!
1. You cannot imagine sharing your personal space with anyone
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If you are the kind of person who is very particular about your things and your personal space and time, then marriage is probably not for you. You have your own way of doing things and keeping things. Be it arranging the furniture in your house or making that perfect cup of coffee for yourself, you thoroughly enjoy your ‘me-time’ and don’t like to be interrupted when you are lost in your thoughts. You value your space, and there’s probably no space for anyone else there.
2. You’re not much of a routine person
Yes, you set the alarm for 6 AM every day and also turn it off and sleep for another hour every day. More often than not, you reach your office at the last minute and sometimes you just ditch it all together. You do what you want, when you want. For you, weekends are meant for sleeping and having a brunch and watching movies, only to wake up late the next morning again. Sounds familiar? If yes, then my friend, you better give a second thought to getting married because that sure is going to put your life into a routine!
3. You are spontaneous, impulsive, and do things at-the-moment
Whether it’s last minute shopping plans or late night party plans, you love to be spontaneous. You could just stuff your belongings in a backpack overnight to go for a hiking trip with your friends. You would quit your job tomorrow if you were to find a chance to pursue your passion. Or you could spend an entire year in an ashram to find spirituality! Marriage comes with a bag of responsibilities, and if you want to be that ‘in-the-moment’ person all your life, then ditch the idea!
4. You haven’t thought about a solid future yet
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You have just completed your education and started earning. You don’t know whether you want to continue working with the same company or not. Perhaps you want to go for further studies or you might just want to do research all your life. Or perhaps you would want to become a writer or an actor for all you know, because right now, you don’t really know. And that is perfectly fine. It takes a person a long time to figure out what they really want in life. So no, you are not at all ready for marriage. In fact, you shouldn’t even think about it now.
5. The idea of handling in-laws or kids, for that matter, freak you out
You might feel really tense when your married friend complains about her whining in-laws and how they have made her life a living hell. The idea of living with or even getting to know an entirely new family is pretty scary for you. You often wonder why kids crying and handling diapers make you paranoid. If this is you, then you better stay away from tying the knot because all of the above are a part and parcel of the thing called marriage!
6. Your friends or cousins getting married don’t bother you at all
So your youngest cousin in the family line just got married. You chose to wear a beautiful dress, had a scrumptious dinner, and came back home without a care in the world. The innumerable social media posts about your friends and cousins getting married don’t bother you at all, and you happily scroll down the page. This is a sure sign you are not ready for marriage, but are fully enjoying your single life!
7. You are a freedom loving and free-spirited person
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“Nobody tells me what to do!” Does that read like a poster you have in your room or would want to have? You make your own rules, and then bend them and break them when you want to. Your freedom is one of the most precious things in your life. You are a free bird and you spread your wings to fly high. You are not meant for this world and marriage is not meant for you!
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8. You feel no pressure from your family to get married
So it’s always been your mother’s dream to see you get married or maybe your dying grandfather’s wish to eat food cooked by his daughter-in-law. You have been hearing about marriage in all its aspects since times unknown. But all these things aren’t daunting for you anymore and you can happily give it a pass. Marriage pressure from family? What is that?!
9. You are doubtful about pulling off a long-term relationship
You cannot remember the last time you were with someone for more than three months. In fact, the number of partners you had in the last few years has been decreasing at a fast rate simply because you are not into a long term thing. If you are comfortable with just keeping things casual and have a difficult time sticking with someone, then marriage is not a good idea for you.
10. Spending your life with a single person with no escape is unimaginable for you
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Getting married is one of the most crucial decisions in a person’s life, and you must think about it a hundred times before making your choice. If you don’t like the idea of being bound to one person for an entire eternity, then don’t think about marriage at all. Marriage is not just another relationship that you can walk out of with a broken heart, and divorce isn’t a pleasant thing.
11. You believe love is a special bond and doesn’t need society’s approval or religious acceptance
Yes, you have found the love of your life and want to spend the rest of your life with them, but why get married? If this kind of thought process matches your philosophy, then don’t change your ideology. If you think love goes beyond the confines of society or religion, then don’t do it just for the heck of it!
12. When asked why you don’t have a reason, you are just not ready for it
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You stay pretty vague when someone asks you about your marriage plans. You don’t have a reason for it and you don’t even need one. It is a state of mind and you don’t need to provide an explanation or justification to anyone. You are just not ready – your mind, body, and soul aren’t! You might want it someday, and we will see about it then. But right now, you are so not ready for marriage!
13. You are not the kind of person to put labels on a relationship
You are happily living-in with your partner of three years and all’s well, so why change it? What is going to change if you do get married? Just a label. If that’s how you think, then don’t go get married. You don’t want to be known as someone’s wife or husband. You are you and you like it like that.
14. The idea of a wedding doesn’t interest you or excite you
Fancy invitations, flamboyant wedding dresses, expensive decorations, and a honeymoon to an exotic location – if none of this brings a sparkle to your eye, then you are definitely not someone who wants to get married! And even if you do someday, you will probably keep it all low profile.
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15. You are just so content with your individual and independent self
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You revel in your individuality, and there’s nothing in your life that you would want to change – your job, your city, or even your apartment. You can manage to do everything in your life on your own. Chances are you want this life for a long time to come, so no, don’t even think about getting married because you are already so happy!
Marriage is a long-term bond and something that requires a commitment for a lifetime. So in case you think you don’t need it or don’t think that you are completely ready to get married, don’t do it! I am sure no one’s holding you at gun point to say yes or no to it! Never marry for the heck of it or just because others are doing it, and worse still, if people think you have come of age now. It requires the consent and commitment of two people to bind them into holy matrimony, and if one person does it with even the slightest doubt in their head, it could ruin your entire future. It is also unfair to the other person if you enter into marriage taking it very casually. So, sit back and think about what is right for you, and only then decide to take the big leap. Marriage or no marriage, in the end, the most important thing is to be happy. If you identify with any of the above signs, then you know that marriage is not your cup of tea, at least not right now.
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