Have you ever said I love you to another person? There’s this excitement, hope, headiness, and feelings and emotions so intense that you can hardly begin to fathom them. It feels like your whole being has been taken over by love. You feel buoyed, like you’re invincible; that nothing can stop you from taking over the world; that you could even fly if you try! Okay, the last one may be an exaggeration, but you get my point.
You expect the object of your affection to reciprocate your feelings. You want them right beside you on the fluffy white cloud where you’re currently residing. You build all these castles in the air that you think are perfect for the two of you to inhabit. You want them to say I love you back, no matter how much you think you’re okay if they don’t say it back. However, it all comes crashing down around your ears when they don’t feel the same way about you.
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You say I love you to your lover, and are waiting for a reaction, usually a positive one, but all you get is whole lot of… no reciprocation on their part. Here are some of the worst responses to I love you that a few people have shared with us. We feel your pain, buddy. Hang in there; the right person will say it back.
1. “Thank you.”
Followed by an enigmatic smile. Two days later, she dumped me! Let me tell you, I did not see that coming. I thought we were on the same page, man, but, you never really know what goes on in someone’s head, do you? One minute everything was fine, and then, bam, I was single again. – Jared, 22
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2. “Please don’t say that.”
Oh God! I remember it like it happened yesterday. I fell for this guy over the course of a few months, really. He was charming, sweet, loving – the total package. He gave me all the signs of a man in love. I thought he was just shy about expressing how he felt. And when I realized that I’d gone and fallen in love with him too, I thought, ‘What the heck. Let me be the first one to fess up.’ I’d planned this romantic picnic in the park. It was fall, and we were sitting on a blanket after eating a couple of sandwiches. He had his arms about me, with my back to his front. I took a deep breath and blurted it out: ‘I love you. I think I’ve been in love with you for a long time now.’ Even before the words were out of my mouth, I felt him stiffen. Then, heaving a sigh, he squeezed me and said, ‘Please don’t say that. I thought we were on the same page.’ Yeah, me too, buddy. It was pretty much downhill from there, as you can imagine. – Kate, 26
3. “I used to love you too.”
This was right before my ex-boyfriend dumped me to be with his ex. What a jerk! – Amanda, 18
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4. “That’s nice.”
For a second there, I wondered if the wrong words had come out of my mouth. Like, maybe I was talking about the weather? I was confused. Then when I repeated it, she said the same thing, with a strained smile, which was more of a grimace really. Ouch – didn’t even begin to cover how I felt then. – Mark, 31
5. “Oh. Okay.”
As if he was acknowledging a generic fact. I mean, what kind of a stupid response is that? I was confessing how I felt about him, and he couldn’t do better than, ‘oh, okay’? Was he for real?! – Zoey, 20
6. “Um… I’ve gotta go now.”
And that was the last I heard from her. She had been upfront with me about her commitment phobia. She’d told me that her longest relationship had lasted eight weeks, before she met me. We’d just celebrated the three-monthaversary or whatever the heck it’s called. And I thought it was the right time to tell her I love you. But guess what, I was the fool for falling in love with a commitment phobe. Served me right, eh? – Jack, 34
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7. “What do you want me to say to that?”
We were in bed, canoodling after a bout of wild sex. I was half lying on him, with my head pillowed on his shoulder, and he was running lazy circles on my back with his fingertips, giving me goosebumps. Pulling a comforter over our rapidly cooling bodies, I turned to him, kissed him softly, and told him, ‘I love you, Luke. I don’t think I’ve ever loved anyone like I do you,’ and flashed him a smile. But, to my horror, he swung his gaze away from me and said, ‘What do you want me to say to that?’ – Leslie, 28
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8. “Awww! Really? You’re such a great friend!”
Burn multiplied by a bazillion! A ‘great friend’? Seriously? I was baring myself, my heart to her, and she thought of me as just a friend?! Double ouch! – Taylor, 23
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9. “Hahaha you’re funny!”
It’s not supposed to be funny, dammit! He was supposed to validate my feelings and say it back. We’d been dating more than a year, and I thought we were moving towards something serious, even preparing myself for the next steps of moving in together, and eventually making a permanent commitment. And all he had to say was I was funny?! – Jess, 29
10. “What’s wrong with you?”
Yes, I kid you not, I got this exact same reply. I mean, like, what was I thinking, blurting out I love you to my girlfriend of three weeks, eh? But the heart wants what the heart wants, or so I’d read somewhere. But, whatever. I got over her and started dating this amazing woman. Older too. So no hard feelings. – Jeremy, 18
11. “Yikes.”
Um… could you be anymore rude?! I mean, I told him I loved him, and his response was ‘yikes’? Ugh! Men are the worst. At least some men are. Okay most of them are. But why can’t I find a guy who is exactly what I want? Is that too much to ask? Ugh! I don’t know anymore. Maybe I should just take a break from dating altogether. – Nancy, 24
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12. “Me too, thanks!”
I think I told my girlfriend I loved her numerous times during the course of our two-year relationship, and every fricking time, she gave me the same answer. At first, I thought maybe she was a bit nervous about it, because she didn’t have the most expressive parents. They couldn’t even bring themselves to hug her when she went away to college. They just stood at the end of their driveway and waved at her. But then, as time went by, I thought she’d open up to me, because I was very affectionate with her, and I really loved her. I just wanted her to acknowledge that she felt the same way about me too. Guess what, she never did. It came to a point where I wanted, no needed to hear her say it back to me. When I told her what I wanted from her, she just couldn’t do it. That’s when I knew we just weren’t going to work. – Paul, 25
13. “Sorry.”
Followed by a swift departure. That’s gotta be the swiftest breakup in the history of relationships! After my confession, she packed her bags, took every last of her stuff, and went back to her mom’s. Never heard from her again, despite trying to contact her. Finally, it came to a point where her mom would answer her cell phone and tell me that she wasn’t at home, when I could see her clearly through the drapes, standing next to her mom. I got the message, loud and clear. – Leo, 39
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14. “Well, I don’t.”
It was an ordinary day in our lives. She was working on her laptop on some article, sitting by the window, where the light made her look radiant. She just looked divine. But she had always been hung up on her looks. Said her nose was a bit large for her face, her ears weren’t pinned to her head, that her mouth was too small, her forehead too high, cheekbones too soft – on and on she would go about it. But I thought she was perfect, just the way she was. And I fell in love with her. When I told her that that ordinary day, she looked up from her computer screen and said those words. I was confused; was she saying she doesn’t love me, or love herself? When I asked her, she said, ‘both,’ and went back to working on her article. – Michael, 32
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15. Silence! Utter silence!
Yep. When I said I love you, he was silent. Not quiet, but preternaturally silent. After a few moments, he stormed out of there. The next day, he broke up with me over text. – Isabel, 29
Ouch! When someone tells you they love you, don’t be a jerk and give them these hideous and hurtful responses to I love you. I really don’t know what the correct response is, if you’re not on the same page as your lover. But these responses to I love you are just not going to cut it. Have a little sense and show some sensitivity. They’re opening up their vulnerable side to you, and the least you could do is acknowledge it in some way. Don’t be a jerk. Remember, karma has a weird way of getting even with you. It might even be you on the other side of this someday! 😉
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