You think you’ll know the moment you start liking someone? Are you sure? How does it make you feel? Warm? Fuzzy? Happy? Triumphant? Or just the same, with a bit of excitement thrown in? Not really sure, are you? Don’t worry, it can happen to the best of us. In fact, the truth is that we can be completely ignorant to the possibility that you’ve developed feelings for someone.
Another thing that contributes to your confusion/dilemma is your brain’s interference. Sometimes, when you’ve had a few rough relationships, you tend to put your heart in the backseat while giving your brain the full reins. That’s also when you hesitate to acknowledge your feelings to yourself – a way of keeping yourself safe from the same pain again. Another reason for this could be that your brain just refuses to allow you to have feelings for a certain person, because of certain reasons.
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How to know if you like someone
So how to know if you like someone – really like them? Worry not, for this isn’t rocket science. There are several signs that are helpful in uncovering how you actually feel about someone. However, one prerequisite of taking off the blinders and revealing how you feel about someone, is you being honest and true with yourself.
If you’re exhibiting any or all of the signs listed below, then it most probably means that you like someone, but haven’t yet acknowledged it – even to yourself.
1. You talk to them, like, all the time!
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You wake up in the morning, just having had a weird dream, and your first thought is to share it with them and laugh about it. Or you just want to be in touch with them, so you send them a text. You see something funny on your way to work, and your first impulse is to call them and tell them about it. You just can’t keep to yourself, because you want to share any and everything with them, so you end up talking to them – a lot!
2. You see them – in everything!
More often than not, every little thing seems to be reminding you of them. Know why this happens? Because you’re actively thinking about them – pretty much all day, every day! And if you’re thinking about someone this much, it can only mean one thing – that you like them very much.
3. You answer their texts/calls immediately.
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No matter if you’re having a busy day or you’re swamped with too much to do, you will always find time to reply to their messages and answer their calls, even if it’s to say that you’re busy. But you’ll hardly ever let their calls go to voicemail. If you find yourself doing this for this one particular person, then you’re in deep, my friend, because you like them very much.
4. You find them funny … even when they’re not!
You find yourself amused by whatever comes out of their mouth, even if it’s not really that funny. You’re laughing so hard at their jokes, which might even that witty or funny, that you have to catch your breath. Know why this is so? Because you like them.
5. You get butterflies when you see them
Having butterflies is your body’s way of telling you that you’re nervous yet anticipating your meeting with them. And one of the main reasons why people get nervous around someone is when they like them. If this happens more often than not, then you definitely like this person.
6. You dress to impress them.
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When you like someone, it’s only natural to impress them. And one of the ways to do this is to dress neatly. Your appearance is what someone notices when they meet you for the first time. But if you find yourself paying particular attention to how you look whenever you know you’ll be around them, then you positively have a crush on this person. You only try so hard to look good when you want to impress someone, no?
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7. You’re flirt with them – without conscious thought.
Imagine you’re with this person, and they’re telling you something really interesting. So you lean in towards them without meaning to. You touch their arm and shoulder whenever you pass them by, without conscious thought. You smile and twirl your hair and even fidget when they’re around. All these are signs that you really like them. Even if you’ve not acknowledged the fact, you’re letting them know through these body language cues of yours.
8. You trust them with the important details.
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If you find yourself unusually trusting of this person, and you’re absolutely sure that they’re not going to betray your trust – ever, then you might as well tell them you like them. Because you do, a lot. Sharing secrets and keeping each other’s confidences is an integral part of the beginning of a relationship. You only indulge in this when you care about this person a lot and trust them to the core.
9. You start aping them – without conscious thought.
As time passes by, you find yourself imitating their gestures and mannerisms, without meaning to. You start saying certain things, a certain way, and won’t even be aware of it, until someone points it out to you. This is called mirroring, you tend do this when you have feelings for someone.
10. You know very intimate details about them.
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Whether it’s that old family feud that made them not visit their grandparents for over a year, or that incident that brought them closer to their elder sibling, you know all the intimate and dare I say, sordid, details about their life. If this is the case, then you more than like them, because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t care about these minutiae.
11. You have given them a nickname that only you know.
If you’ve given them a nickname, a fact that only you’re privy to, then you’re most definitely in ‘like’ with them! Why else would you put in effort to call them something dorky or endearing, if you didn’t like them, eh?
12. You value their opinions and thoughts.
Whether you’re having trouble at work or you had a tiff with your mum, your first instinct is to go to them for opinion. Why? Because you value theirs and you know that you’d take what they say seriously. And why, pray tell, would you do this? Because you LIKE them!
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13. You get annoyed when you see them with someone else.
Jealousy is one of the biggest and the most obvious signs that you like someone more than just as a friend. You can deny it all you want, but jealousy almost always makes you stop and take notice of your feelings, and also makes you want to acknowledge it, so that you don’t ever have to feel the green monster gnawing on your insides. You can’t bear to even think of them with someone else, and if you see this playing out in front of your eyes, then your mind conjures up different scenarios to hurt this person, when you’re not even all that violent generally. You see, that’s the thing about liking someone – you can deny your own feelings, but your heart won’t let you do that for long.
Don’t you think it’s crazy how you can’t tell yourself that you have feelings for someone? However, with these signs that answer the question how to know if you like someone, you can be clear and true to yourself about how you feel about someone. Good luck!
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