Many say that age is just a number, and that is partially true. But are you the same as you used to be when you were 12? Obviously not. When you have reached the 30s, you may find that you have outgrown certain things. You have experience, understanding of the world, and you are more in touch with yourself as well.
If you don’t feel this way, maybe it’s time to do a little soul searching and think about how you have changed over the years and what you still want to accomplish.
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We are not asking you to behave like your neighborhood old ladies who have nothing to do, but rather to examine your life and make any changes you see fit.
Here are a few things that women in their 30s are probably a little too old for:
1. Not being confident in how you look
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Well, no one is ugly. You are definitely not. Standing in front of the mirror and trying to look like the girl that you were always jealous of in high school really cannot be your thing anymore. Dress in clothes that you feel comfortable and confident in, and we are sure that the grace and elegance you have acquired over the years will make heads turn.
If you find yourself thinking that you do not look great, you need to stop right there. Make peace with what you have and make the most out of it.
2. Stalking your exes on social media
You are not in your 20s anymore. Why stalk that ex and then make a big deal out of a relationship that ended years ago? If you are not over it, you need to get over it. Life in your 30s is never going to be like your life in the previous decade. You are not as immature and naïve as you used to be. If you made the mistake of dating the wrong guy, then you need to get over it and move on.
You know that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you are definitely going to find someone who is going to make you happy and give you what you deserve from a relationship.
3. Binge drinking and crazy hangovers
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Of course you still love to party and socialize, but your body is not going to allow it with the same frequency. We are not telling you that you shouldn’t go out, but you might need to tone it down a little. Women over 30 are responsible and keep their wits about them. Grab a drink or two, but not to the extent where you actively participate in drinking games and you have no idea of where your purse is.
This behavior is going to reflect in your work life and everything else you do. You do not want to be fired at this point in your life.
4. Looking for a man to support you financially
Well, gone are the days when a man is going to blow money on you and buy you expensive gifts to impress you. You need to do that for yourself. Do not look for someone to support you financially. Women in their 30s should ideally have some savings as well in case of emergencies. Just be capable of supporting yourself financially and understand what your needs are and what you need to do in order to fulfill them.
You are going to be respected and adored by your man for doing this.
5. Not standing up for yourself at work or in your relationship
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There have probably been times in your life when you didn’t speak up for yourself when you should have, whether personally or professionally. Know that you are now a grown up, and can make decisions on your own and that is what you really need to do.
This doesn’t mean that you change your attitude as soon as you have turned 30, make changes gradually, and do not hurt anyone in the process and you will be good to go.
6. Not paying attention to your body
Well, this is something you really need to pay attention to. If you have not bothered about what you eat, drink, and the products you use for your body – you really need to break that habit. Women in their 30s go through many bodily changes and all of them need to be catered to. If you do not, it can lead to a really painful time ahead.
Health is above all else when it comes to this crucial age, and you will have to pay attention to it if you want to remain healthy well into the future.
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7. Seeking approval and apologizing for your personality
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You are a woman who has lived 30 years, and you have a personality that is lovable. You have all the friends that you need. If anyone comes along and tries to make their opinion about your personality much more important than your own – you need to really keep away from them. You do not need to be ashamed of who you are and what you have turned out to be, and do not seek approval.
If there is someone who is hurting your self-esteem or trying to change you, they are not the right people for your life. Just be confident and keep going the way you have all your life.
8. Sleeping around meaninglessly
It was fun back in the day, agreed. But most women don’t enjoy this in the long run. You are going to hit a point where you will want to either just be by yourself, or you will seek love in life. If you haven’t already, start to take your love life seriously and not just look for a muse to be with every other day.
It might be time to be more selective about whom you date if you want to settle down.
9. Not knowing what you want from the man even after 5 dates
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When you are dating, you need to figure out what makes a person right for you. Ideally, you will have gotten your dating mistakes out of the way when you were younger. Just randomly wasting time on someone you might not even see yourself with 6 months down the line isn’t really worth it.
You need to know what you want and determine if the man in question is the right fit for you. If not, you really need to go ahead and find someone else for yourself.
10. Holding onto grudges which are way back in the past
So what if this boy ragged you in college? Or tried to sleep with your sister while he was dating you? Life in your 30s is much more than that. You are a grown woman, and you need to behave like it. Know that you are not going to benefit from these grudges. Also, how many people do you even know from your high school and college days?
If you happen to ever run into someone who you once had a huge falling out with, go and greet them pleasantly. It is going to do you and your personal life a world of good.
11. Keeping your house a mess
It’s time to start taking pride in your surroundings. Do not wait for a party to stock up on essentials or to do the dishes. Have a cleanup regime to ensure that your house is not filthy. Keeping a clean, orderly house will help you feel put together and grown up.
You’re in your 30s now. Isn’t it time you grew up and took proactive interest in your own life?
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12. Not making time for your family
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No matter your relationship status, you should also prioritize your family. You need to make time for them and make them feel important. You parents and siblings definitely need you and you have to be there for them.
You are also going to feel really fulfilled if you manage to balance work, love life, and family well. This is a part of growing up, and you need to embrace it.
Life in your 30s is not bad at all. You are definitely going to shoulder more responsibility and will have a lot more to do, and you’ll also want to be sure to do it well. But this isn’t a bad thing – it is fun, and you will have much more control over your life. And that is always a good thing. So buckle up and take charge of your life! Good luck!
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