Breakups suck. It doesn’t matter whose decision it was or if it was a mutual decision and for whatever reason, it is one of the worst life situations that a person has to face. Maybe it was love or maybe it was just infatuation, but you do get used to the idea of having someone for yourself in your life – someone who you can love and be with. But then you breakup and you are left feeling a bunch of emotions that you are probably not sure how to handle.
Maybe your ex was this amazing person and you just can’t help thinking about them or maybe they were a toxic addition to your life that you just got used to. Either way, they were a part of your life, and somewhere down the line, maybe even a long while after your breakup, you do tend to think about them. Maybe you’re still single or maybe you’re in a happy relationship with someone else, but there are times that they cross your mind. It could be because something made you think of them or you just had this amazing connection with them that you miss. But it does happen and when it does, you have absolutely no idea what to do when you miss your ex.
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Well, here is what you can do. Read on.
1. Remove reminders
Now, it may not be the easiest of things to do, but if you have reminders about your ex in close proximity, get rid of it – ALL of it. You might want to keep them because it is all you have left of them, but that is exactly why you need to remove them from your life – so that you have nothing of them left behind that remind you of them and the time you spent with them. Of course, you can’t break down the places that you went on dates for together or skip people that you might commonly know. But the things that you can get rid of, let them go. Believe it or not, it’s the best way to start over.
2. Music
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If you’re someone like me who depends on music for every mood or situation, then you’ve probably already done this. But if you haven’t, it’s never too late to try. Pull out some old CDs and cassettes (not the ones that remind you of your ex), and listen to them. Music has a soothing effect on people, and old music always evokes a sense of nostalgia and happiness in you. If not, browse through and find some new music to add to your existing collection. It’s going to make you happy at the end of the day.
3. Get out
This is very important. When people start to miss their ex, they often shut down and stay away from the rest of the world. Your friends wouldn’t have heard from you in a while, you disappear from social media; you are just holed up in your room, probably crying your eyes out, or imitating a slug on your couch surrounded by empty cartons of ice cream. Don’t do this to yourself. Hang out with your sibling or maybe your parents; meet your best friend and maybe try out that new restaurant that opened down the lane. It will get your mind off your ex and your misery.
4. Do something new
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Is there something that you haven’t done in a long while? Maybe read a book, bake or play football? Then go ahead and do it. If there’s some place that you like going to, head there and spend some time. Take a vacation, volunteer, become a photographer, write, adopt a dog (I really like this one) or do anything else that you’ve always wanted to do. It’ll make you happy and also keep your thoughts away from your ex.
5. Play
This is like a given solution to every time your ex decides to drop by or just pop up in your head. Just get up and hit the gym or play whatever sport it is that you enjoy. Any physical activity will help you focus on something else and take your mind off your ex. It even helps you remove all the frustration, in case you were unable to express it otherwise. Another plus from this activity is all the endorphins that get released into your blood stream, that are bound to make you feel better. So, go do your thing and take a hot, relaxing bath after. It will definitely make you feel better. You’re welcome!
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6. Date
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You have no idea what to do when you miss your ex, and can’t understand why it keeps happening to you. If you’re not dating already, then probably that is why. You need to get out there and meet new people, have some fun and get some action between the sheets. It doesn’t have to be anything serious and it doesn’t have to continue into anything. Maybe you’ll make an amazing new friend, or have the best sex of your life or maybe even meet someone that you want a relationship with. You won’t know unless you try, now will you?
7. Call an old friend
It always helps your mood to call an old friend and just talk away. Maybe it has been a while since you both met, but it is never too late to catch up with your old friends. Make time to talk to them about what is happening in your life right now and listen to their job and marriage stories. You will probably reminisce about the old days and how much fun they were. So, go ahead and call that friend and meet them if you can. It is one of those feel-good things that works like a charm!
8. Retail therapy
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Yes, you read that right. Retail therapy is good and not only for women, if that’s what you thought. The whole idea of going out shopping (apart from emptying your wallet) is to make yourself feel good. You have a good life and a great thing going on for you, so why not show some self-love and get yourself something nice – a new haircut, a handbag or maybe a new phone? It will definitely make you feel good about life.
9. EAT
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If you don’t like good food, then you’re not human. But if you do like some tasty servings, then go ahead and get them. Go out for lunch or prepare something at home. Watch a movie and finish that tub of ice cream if you feel like it. Don’t count the calories because good food is worth so much more. It’s called comfort food for a reason, so why not go ahead and indulge yourself in your food fantasies? I’ll stick to the chocolate ones. What about you? 😉
10. Meet the gang
If nothing works, then it is time to call upon your bunch of mad people and get them to rescue you from yourself. They are obviously your go-to folks, and for good reason. They’ll know what to say and what to do to make you feel better. If you have a few friends who make you that happy, then you have no reason to worry. All you have to do is pick up your phone and call them. Spend some time together with them and you will have that ex out of your head in no time.
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So now you know what to do when you miss your ex. Keep yourself distracted and have oodles of fun! There are only two things that can help you forget your ex – time and a busy life. Also, maybe a new person that you love, maybe not right away, but you get my drift. It will take time for you to get over your ex or rather to fully forget them. Even if you do manage to do that (you will), there will be certain times when they will just pop up unannounced, and you have no idea why you are thinking about them. But by then, you’ll be too happy in your life to let it affect you or bring you down.
So, that’s what you have to do. You have to start over again and get to a point in life where you can learn to live and be happy without them. Start loving yourself more and you’ll be there already. It is difficult, no doubt. But you’ll heal and everything is going to be all right. So, go be happy!
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