Do you remember a time when you saw someone who wasn’t beautiful or handsome in the conventional sense, but who was incredibly attractive? You couldn’t take your eyes away from that person; there was something magnetic about them. That’s the thing about looking good, it has little to do with beauty, youth or sex appeal. And women with that X factor appear more attractive to men, even though they are considered to be more visual in nature.
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Since we’ve already established that youth or natural beauty has nothing to do with being attractive, we can try to decode that elusive X factor. It isn’t really as hard as it sounds! With a few simple yet infallible steps, you are bound to turn into a much more attractive version of yourself. Trust us, whether your man notices or not, you’ll feel much better about yourself!
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1. Knowing yourself
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As they say, you can’t expect someone to know and love you unless you know and love yourself first. There’s something about a self aware woman that’s very attractive to men. Get a professional consultation and find out your hair type, skin type and the right kind of products for you. Identify the best parts of yourself so that you can highlight them with the right kind of cut and design in clothes, including undergarments in the right size. Hire a stylist, if necessary – it’ll be worth it!
2. Grooming
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First things first, of course. Ensure proper hygiene at all times, which includes removal of unwanted body and facial hair, investing sweet smelling body products and a perfume suited to your body chemistry. Get a good haircut that suits your facial structure, and ensure your nails are in good condition. Get your teeth cleaned at a dentist’s. If you have skin issues like blackheads or acne, get the right treatment from a dermatologist. Smooth skin that also smells great is not just attractive to men, it’s irresistible!
3. Being feminine
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Okay, we admit this is a tough one! Words like femininity and feminism are very confusing these days, and one can get lost in a war of political correctness! Being feminine is basically about being a lady, and not a swearing sailor! Be gentle, and let there be a certain flow and grace to your movements, as though you’re very comfortable with your body. If you’re confused and wondering how to be more attractive to men, walking with a light step and softening your voice is a start. Avoid rash, loud movements or an overdose of hand movements which’ll appear coquettish rather than feminine. Of course, being an independent woman, you might question the need to be feminine. But the two need not be mutually exclusive.
4. Being articulate
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There’s nothing like being able to have a good, intelligent conversation with someone, man or woman. Contrary to the ‘dumb blonde’ theory, being smart and articulate greatly increases the chances of appearing attractive to men. By no means should you dumb down for anyone! Speak openly and intelligently, and try to keep away from controversial topics that have the potential to flare up into an argument – at least in the initial encounters with the object of your affection!
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5. Smile
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A genuine smile is a great tool to develop a good rapport with anyone, and not just a potential partner. (See why we mentioned going to the dentist?) It’s a great ice breaker and everyone’s smile is beautifully distinct, so that’s something to remember you by. It goes without saying that a fake smile is far from attractive to men; a sincere smile will be one that reaches the eyes and lights up your face.
6. Positivity
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God knows that we have enough hate and cynics in this world, so bring on the positivity! The ‘damsel with a mysterious pain’ image will only go so far before it gets tiring; so be cheerful. Try to be optimistic and bright even when you talk about dreary topics, so that the person who’s listening is drawn in by your sunny nature. That doesn’t mean we recommend smiling through your pain, but you need to use your discretion and look at the lighter things of life.
7. Emotional availability
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While wondering how to be more attractive to men, some women take the ‘hard-to-get’ game too far. There’s a difference between being a light tease and completely emotional unavailable. If you’re still not over your ex, or pining for someone else, it’ll soon be obvious. That’s the reason you need to grieve your past relationship, bury it, and move on. It’s easier said than done, but trust me, it can be done.
8. Interdependence
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Women these days put a lot of importance on being and appearing independent, so that no one decides to mess with them. Thankfully, men are waking up to this, so trying too hard might have the opposite effect on them. Rather than looking independent, appearing to be interdependent is much more attractive to men. It shows that you are able to do a lot of things on your own, but for those that you can’t, you’re ready to seek and accept help, which is their cue to come in on their white horses!
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9. Subtle flirting
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Flirting is a good way to catch a man’s attention, but the keyword here is ‘subtle.’ Brazen pandering is certainly a put off and most definitely not feminine! A light touch, a soft graze, and a very delicate show of skin is ideal. In this case, always follow the saying, ‘less is more.’ It’s better to not flirt at all than to overdo it!
10. Authenticity
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Last but not least, be yourself. Trying to be someone you’re not is not just unattractive, it’s damaging to your own self-esteem. And it can get very tiring after a while when you can’t keep up the facade any longer. Be your genuine self, voice your original thoughts, and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve!
All in all, being attractive to men has a lot to do with your personality, while dressing and grooming are the cherries on the cake. This doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect; no one is! Just be the best you can be, and you’ll look and feel like a million bucks!
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