“When a wife has a good husband, it is easily seen on her face.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
In many representations of marriage in cartoons and popular media, the wife is usually shown as an overweight woman with a perpetually sullen face, wearing an apron with a rolling pin/frying pan in her hand, while her husband cowers in fear. ‘Happy’ is probably the last word you’d associate with a wife like this, along with ‘loving’ or ‘gentle’! But even if your wife doesn’t resemble a caricature like this, can you be sure that she’s happy in your marriage? Turns out, there are many signs to check if you have a happy wife, which don’t involve rolling pins!
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For most men, getting a girl to say ‘Yes’ to their marriage proposal is a high point in their lives; there’s a certain sense of accomplishment at having achieved something. That’s perfectly fine too, but the trouble is when men think of the proposal acceptance as the high point of their relationship; as if they’ve got nothing more to do after that. Such men tend to let things slide and the wife who was cherished and desired during courtship suddenly finds herself disappointed.
You’ve probably heard of the saying, happy wife, happy life and you agree that it’s true! Now you’re probably wondering why you need signs or indicators to find out if your wife’s happy – wouldn’t she just say if she wasn’t? Well that’s the thing, in some marriages, unhappiness can be like dehydration. By the time you’re feeling thirsty, you’re already dehydrated; you should have started drinking water earlier. The same way, watching out for subtle signs of your wife’s happiness will ensure that you can be comfortable and bask in the knowledge that your wife is over the moon with you! Here are 10 signs to check if you have a wife who belongs to the Happy Wives Club.
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10 signs to check if you have a happy wife
1. She smiles often
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There’s a quote that goes like this, “The real power of a man is in the size of the smile of the woman sitting next to him”. Okay, here we’re talking of a sincere, from-the-eyes smile, not a fake one that’s put on. A really happy woman will have a generally pleasant face, and if you’re the cause of her happiness, you’ll find that lovely smile directed at you. And if you can’t make out if your wife’s smile is a sincere one or a fake one, you should probably reading something titled ’10 Tips to get to know my Wife Better’.
2. She makes plans with you
A woman who enjoys spending time with you will take the initiative to plan outings, trips or movie nights with you. She doesn’t just passively agree to your plans; she wants to be with you, so she’ll put in the effort. Travelling is something most people enjoy and it gives them a break from the monotony of daily life, and if she wants you along on those breaks, she truly considers you her partner. And if she buys tickets to your favorite game followed by a cozy night together, you are one lucky bloke.
3. She doesn’t hesitate to discuss issues
Some people think that a wife who never complains is the ultimate happy wife. Those people couldn’t be more wrong. Any healthy relationship will and should have a fair share of conflict, and a healthy couple will deal with it properly. If your wife isn’t afraid of voicing her opinions and expressing her displeasure, it’s a sign that she wants to set things right. It means that she’s confident of herself and trusts you enough to listen to her. If that’s not a sign of a happy wife, what is?
4. She makes an effort to please you
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Ahem, we’re not talking about that kind of pleasing. If your wife notes all your minor dietary preferences, that is a very good sign that she loves you and is happy in the marriage. Food is often considered a very sensual experience, involving all the senses, and there is some truth about getting your way into a person’s heart through his plate. When a woman takes the trouble to get the ingredients and cook your favorite meal from scratch, you can guarantee that you’re doing something right!
5. She’s not envious
Yes, we know that when she gets jealous, you get an ego boost, but we’re not talking about that. If your wife doesn’t compare your marriage or your home with the neighbors’, it’s a good sign that she’s happy with what she has – namely, a marriage to you and a home with you. According to her, everything’s just perfect and there’s just no place for envy.
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6. She’s not afraid of asking for what she wants
A confident woman is definitely attractive, but it’s also a reason for you to feel good about yourself. Many women have trouble asking for what they want, and they (unfairly) expect their husbands to read their minds and grant their wishes. When your wife doesn’t hesitate to ask for something from you, it shows that she’s comfortable in your relationship and she trusts you to respond appropriately.
7. She tries to get along with your family
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Okay, in-laws can create some very tricky situations within a marriage, especially between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law. Most women tend to avoid holidays altogether so that they don’t have to deal with such awkwardness. However, if your wife makes an effort to actually get along with your family members without any ulterior motive, you are a lucky man married to a woman who’s happy to be your wife.
8. She has some kind of physical connection every day
Again, that is not what we’re talking about. Touch is one of the most basic human sensations, and even a tiny baby who doesn’t understand relationship dynamics knows the importance of touch. If your wife touches you several times through the day – pats your back, ruffles your hair, touches your elbow – you can be glad that you’re keeping her happy and she enjoys that small physical connection. It’s also a subtle reminder that you belong to each other – mind, body and soul. We know what you’re thinking, you lucky dog, you.
9. She talks about her day
There are wives who can’t wait for their husbands to come home before they start listing out all the things that went wrong with their day. Now that is NOT a sign of a happy wife! A woman who let you in her everyday life and tells you all the itty bitty details of her day wants you to be involved. She misses you during the day and is glad to see you at the end of it. When she talks about her dreams, the little things that made her laugh or something that took her down memory lane, she’s opening up to you. Now even if your wife had a terrible day, a heart to heart with you will turn her into a super happy wife!
10. She cares for herself
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A woman who cares for herself is a woman who’s happy with herself and her life, which obviously includes you. It shows that she loves herself and she is happy with the fact that she is the person you’ve loved and chosen to spend the rest of your life with. This makes her feel cherished and attractive, which leads to a not-so-vicious circle of trying to look and feel better. Another point – she wants to look good for you, a fact that should make you happy. And when all is said and done, there’s no bigger sign of a happy wife than a husband who feels happy when he’s with her.
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You have to understand that these signs of a happy wife depend a lot upon each woman’s individual personality. Every woman has her own style of displaying her pleasure or displeasure, but most husbands are smart enough to pick up on these early enough in the marriage. We know you are smart too, which is why you’ll use the information in this article intelligently and in tune with the particular aspects of your wife’s personality.
Obviously, just knowing about the signs of a happy wife is not enough; what do you do if you realize that she isn’t as happy as you’d like her to be? Now that’s the subject for another discussion altogether, but we’ll give you a brief idea. Try to understand the source of her unhappiness – and this can be tough. Women can get upset for a huge variety of reasons and trying to assess what you did wrong can drive you crazy. So don’t worry too much; just give your wife all the love and affection she deserves, and she’ll soon turn that frown upside down. And then the two of you can continue living a wonderful life together – after all, happy wife; happy life!
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