“I love you”: The three most beautiful words in the English language, but undoubtedly the most profound feeling said in any tongue! If you say them in the right moment to the right person, it calls for some champagne! But if you blurt them to the wrong person at the wrong time, you will need to gulp down a drink or two, for a completely different reason! Now, that’s an ultimate embarrassment, isn’t it?! So, when to say I love you becomes very crucial.
Also, it is important you know that there is only one right response to your, “I love you,” and that is, “I love you too.” “That’s good. So what was I saying…?” or “That’s so sweet. Let’s order dinner,” aren’t the responses you want.
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Basically, the point I am trying to make here is that TIMING IS EVERYTHING when it comes to when to say I love you. If you say those three words way too soon, you not only run the risk of coming off as desperate, but also will instantly lose both the authority you command and your dignity. But again, if you wallow in the status quo, you are ought to miss the magic moment, which might launch the two of you onto a higher relationship stage.
So how will you judge when to let the cat out of the bag, that is, when to say I love you? Let us help you with that.
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P.S.: Never say I love you for the first time, during, after or before sex. Sex is a mind-altering act. It always strengthens intimacy between two individuals. It bonds them. However, it also gives one the exact feeling that one feels when in love. So, if you don’t want to confuse the two feelings, we suggest you skip the, “I love you” when on a climactic high. There is a huge difference between lust and love, and you need to be sure about that.
1. You can feel those butterflies, the rollercoasters and the back-flipping hippogriffs!
This is one of the easiest signs of when to say I love you. If you are getting that loopy feeling in your chest, your body has a message for you. It wants to tell you, “Hey! This person is your happiness. And so, you should totally go for it!” Yes, science has no answer for why we get those butterflies in our tummy when we are in love, but one thing is for sure, it is a sign that it’s time.
2. You know you cannot hold it in anymore.
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As if you will internally burst if you don’t say it today. Also, you need to be convinced, a hundred percent, that you are in love with this person, and these words you are about to say, you actually mean them. Make certain that you and your special person are speaking the same language. What I am trying to say here is that when you say, “I love you,” you might be meaning, “This is special. And I think we should take it to the next level. What do you think?” But it is possible that your partner’s interpretation is, “Where should we tie the knot?” So, if you think your mate is likely to overreact, tell them something like, “Please don’t panic. I am not proposing. I am only telling you how I feel about you.”
3. You have been dating each other for quite a while.
Saying it immediately after your first date?! Wh-a-a-at?! I understand you have been struck by cupid, and it is love at first sight, but hey! You need to wait until you have gone out a number of times, spent time together, and gotten to know each other pretty well. You need to know that both of you like hanging out together, you cancel other plans to be with each other and so on. You need to make sure that you are not just infatuated but actually in love with this person. Only when you really love a person, will your words sound convincing to them, making it highly likely for them to respond in the positive.
4. You trust this other person, and they seem to trust you too.
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Most of the times, love follows only when you trust a person completely. By that time, you will yourself know that you have to say those three words to that person of yours, and those words will be uttered without shadows of doubt or the fogginess of may bes. You can never guess what is going to happen after you lay your heart bare before your partner, but it will not only feel safe to say I love you to the person you can trust, but also feel so right.
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5. Your head is clear about what you want.
Apart of being hopped up on hormones, there are moments when our brain is too disarrayed to actually mean what we say. I am talking about times when you feel lonely, needy or ignored. These are not the moments in which you should say those three words for the first time. It is not right on your part to use these instances when you are low, to manipulate an “I love you too” from your special person. These kinds of things only work in movies, and you should steer clear of them.
6. Being with them just feels right!
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All the relationship experts agree with me on this. If you put limitations on yourself, when you know that this is the moment, it will just crush you. It will only cause more heartache. If you don’t say it even when it feels so right, it is sure to cause more harm than any good. The conditional “only ifs” are really hurtful. You will be blaming yourself for not showing courage, for the rest of your life. You must stop thinking about why not, and focus on what you really want.
7. Just thinking about them excites you!
You are not scared about what they are going to say. Yes, a little nervous maybe, but from your end, you are totally ready to take the plunge. You know that there is nothing wrong with being the first one to admit that you are in love. Also, what the response will be, won’t change the way you feel about them. You will always take care of them, and want the best things to happen to them, without expecting anything in return. Now, that is true love.
8. You cannot think of a reason why you shouldn’t confess your love.
One can always come up with excuses why it may not be alright to say “I love you.” Say, you hardly know that person and you are about to tell them that they mean the world to you, and that you love them more than anyone in your life. Now, that is a little crazy and unconvincing. But if you guys have known each other for quite some time now, and you love them because of the person they are, I think it is perfectly okay to go ahead and break the news to them.
9. You are confident that nothing bad will happen if you say those words.
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What scares us when we are about to say I love you to our special person, is all the horrible things that could happen after we say it. Your loved one may not be on the same page, and so might say they are not ready. However, if your gut says they like you, it is worth it. You have taken it slow. Now is that time to shift gears and place your foot on that accelerator!
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10. You know you are capable of loving and being loved.
And are also ready to stick it out when things are not going as planned.
Knowing that you are capable of loving brings us to the relationship baggage of any kind that you may be carrying. You should know this: Loving involves souls. You need to take out time for your relationship. You must want to make things work. You will definitely regret if you don’t make time and don’t put in the effort. So if you think you don’t have what it takes to be in a relationship, this is the perfect time to put a stop to where you are heading. But if you love them, and that is all that matters to you in the world, go and tell them, fully and passionately.
In the end, it won’t matter who said “I love you” first. Also, who says it more frequently will not matter as much as whether you took the courage of finding out if the other person was on the same page or not, and that has made all the difference. This will affect the profundity of your relationship, and will help it grow. More than the timing, it is the depth with which you say it that counts, and no one can teach you that. If you really love them, tell them today.
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