Okay, time to plug out that DVD full of ‘best friends-turned-lovers rom coms’ and tune your brain to something you haven’t heard in a long while – common sense. Yeah, not that common, folks! Not that common!
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While the idea of being with someone who makes you feel comfortable, safe, and most importantly, happy is quite enticing, falling in love with your best friend can change those very incentives! Now don’t get me wrong – I am all for the lucky ones who made falling in love with your best friend a real thing, married them straight out of high school, and never looked back, but that’s a rare thing. You see, when you turn to a best friend thinking you know everything there is to know and adore him just the way he is, you are making one huge mistake! You are assuming that you’d still adore him when he calls you ‘fat’ in that red dress you love and tells you that your cooking resembles something like dog food. After all, you guys know each other inside out – so you have no ground to complain of sucky kisses when you knew he was a terrible kisser (not that you have a best friend now to complain to, coz your best friend is now your boyfriend <sigh>) while he has seen you without makeup and will call you out for zilch effort while you rend the air with shouts of ‘wretched a**h*le’ and mean it! Sound like something headed toward ‘happily ever after?’
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Thought so.
But if you are still not convinced and want to lose the one guy friend who can give you a lifetime insider’s access to why some douche bags will never call back and valuable comparative analysis when two equally worthy contenders for the ‘potential partner’ trophy ask you out, go ahead. But not without reading all the reasons why we think falling in love with your best friend is a terrible, terrible idea:
1. It might be too transparent
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Yes, before you fall in love with your best friend, think twice and hard – whether you can do without watching several reruns of Orange Is The New Black whilst one of you lets out a big one because – hey, mozzarella sticks! No, right! And now, suddenly the new label of ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’ might make the transparency a tad bit embarrassing! Don’t you think?
2. You are already beginning on the 20th date
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You guys already know the words to your favorite songs and sing along, you share the same twisted sense of humor, and you even laugh on your own rotten jokes without a care if everybody else thinks they are meh. Even worse, on most occasions you enjoy a strange telepathic communication line too. Think there will really be much on the plate for dates?
3. There’s nothing new, really
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When you are dating a person you know inside out, you have basically agreed to build your ‘fortress’ of ‘friendship-turning-romance’ on the cemetery of the ‘mystery of romance.’ And that too, after butchering it yourself! So no mystery, no excitement, and certainly, no honeymoon phase! You might be sitting on the couch watching as many episodes of Breaking Bad as you can before passing out from a beer-induced coma.
4. Things will change, inevitably
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When you fall in love with your best friend, you are no longer prepared for him to call you out for your quirks or listen to him ramble on about his ex. Likewise, he isn’t as comfortable with your endless rounds of party nights or your non-existent cooking skills. Everything that was endearing and fun earlier including those adorable insult-nicknames will sooner or later turn into a bone of contention. Watch out!
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5. Your fights can flare into wars in no time
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Remember this person is someone who knows ‘everything’ about you. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING. So whenever a tiff breaks out, be sure that your lustful go at one of his frat boys last summer will be brought into the fray while you will simultaneously be yelling about his flirtatious text-sext-ball with your hot colleague!
6. Who’d you run to now, when your relationship becomes relationshit
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When the one person you could run to with all your relationship problems turns into the source of all your relationship problems, you have a problem! And a big one at that!
7. You will have to find a new best friend
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It is very hard to find a best friend. Takes years of knowing each other and forging a comfy camaraderie. But when you begin to date the very same person, you’d need a substitute – that means all the time-effort investment again. I don’t know about you, but I’d not even draw the graph, let alone actualize it. Keeping the best friend as a best friend seems the easier alternative.
8. It might ruin romance, forever
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When your special someone is the one person you have been roving about with in your pajamas, fixing mayo sandwiches with, and going grocery shopping with, there’s really no other mundane string you can strike at to play a magical note. You will always be two coffee-chugging couch potatoes relaxing with each other!
9. No more relaxed and honest fun or too much of it
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Either you’d be hard-pressed to not call him out for sleeping with his socks on, start expecting that he’d shower you with more compliments or simply have too-much-of-what-you-had-earlier itself. Thus, you’d either no longer feel like yourself and feel he has changed too or feel that the ‘romantic relationship’ with your best bud is anything but romantic. No peace with either end of the spectrum. Wondering if there’s a middle ground? We wonder too!
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10. And if you guys hit the exit, things will never be the same
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And if you guys decide to call it off, you cannot snap back into being the best of friends. Life isn’t HIMYM and you aren’t Robin who dated Ted. So careful there, my friend, you might end up losing what you already have. Worth it? Your call.
Up for ticking THIS disaster-bomb now?
Hah, thought so.
You are welcome.
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