One of the most misconstrued proverbs in the English language is “wearing one’s heart on their sleeve.” What exactly does this popular saying mean? Who is a person who wears their heart on their sleeve? If you take the proverb quite literally, a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve is unreserved in his display of emotion. If that too sounds super complicated, then it simply means that they are not afraid to hold back what they think and feel, making them an open book for the world to read.
For some reason, people seem to find this particular characteristic quite unfavorable in people because it apparently implies that they are fickle, over-generous with their feelings and emotions, and therefore as a result, very sensitive. However, it is all about perspectives when you are talking about a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. In a world which has stereotypically classified boys as being reserved and unemotional and cold-hearted, a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve is actually a treasure to find.
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There is definitely more than one reason why you should date a guy who shows his emotions for all the world to see. Here is why.
1. Chances of miscommunication and misunderstanding are eliminated
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One of the main reasons you should date a guy who has no issues wearing his heart on his sleeve is because they are so easy to talk to and they are so open to everything you say and they never judge. You can establish good faith and rapport with them easily, and indifference lethargy is the last thing on their minds. When you have someone who wears his heart on his sleeve, talking to them and telling them what you feel becomes the easiest thing in the world. As a result of this, the chances of misunderstandings because of miscommunication and misinterpretation of words becomes reduced to a relaxing, almost non-existent level.
2. You know exactly what they want so there are fewer complications in the relationship
Most of the time, relationships break down because two people are unable to understand what they want of and from each other. This happens when you are unable to speak to each other freely, or you condition yourself to fit the idea of perfect that the other person has of you to please them, rather than concentrating on who you really are. This is avoided when you date a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. They tell you exactly what they want, what makes them angry, or sad, or jealous, or what pleases them, so that you can avoid the landmines which so often cause a relationship to disintegrate.
3. You can take him at face value because he has no issues showing his true self
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Sometimes, you find out nasty things about people after you have been with them for a considerable amount of time, and then you start to get depressed because either you realize that you have been with them for too long, or you realize that you wasted a lot of precious time for and because of that person. Therefore, it is always advisable to date a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve because right from the start, you will have no problems taking him at face value because he is not afraid to show you exactly who he is. No part of his character or personality will come as a rude shocker for you, which will make your life infinitely easier and less complicated.
4. They are definitely not quitters
Which is why they make for perfect boyfriend material. Characteristically, those who wear their heart on their sleeves come with an inordinate amount of enthusiasm and optimism, making them fighters rather than quitters. Therefore, in the event of a serious conflict in your relationship, they won’t be the one to walk out or give up on you. There are a lot of trials and tests and personal problems that two people have to face together, which truly determines whether those two people are meant for each other or not. Most of the time, either one of them gives up or walks away because they are not patient or sensitive enough to compromise for the other. However, this is definitely not the case for guys who are not afraid to wear their heart on their sleeves. When they promise to make a commitment, they do so in all seriousness.
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5. There is no end to the honeymoon stage
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One of the best things about dating a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve is that they offer you an endless amount of puppy love, that is, there is no end to the honeymoon stage that couples always crave for. They are not miserly with their love and they are ready to lavish all kinds of attention on you, because they are unafraid of being cute. You might think that you need the over-the-top boisterous kind of emotional love that such men have to offer, but as you meet more and more people in your life, you realize that you need someone who will treat you like you are the queen of their world, and that is exactly why it is so much fun dating a guy like this.
6. Even when the honeymoon stage does end, he knows exactly how to love you
Although I would like to believe that the honeymoon stage never ends, reality has proved that it does eventually, no matter how in love you are. However, the benefit of dating a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve is that they get used to showing affection and caring for you (might even include some major PDA) which doesn’t fall short even after the initial thrill of the first few months has faded. The excitement of the start of the relationship gives way to a stable sort of affection.
7. They are careful with their judgment, but the walls eventually give way
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Just because some guys wear their heart on their sleeve does not mean that they are loving and accepting and open to everyone. Although they fall in love easily and even get hurt to a large extent, they are reserved with their judgment. However, once you have managed to get through to them, the walls that people build around themselves fall away and you have no trouble knowing such people exactly as they are – honest, loving, giving, and positive. Unfortunately, such characteristics have become a rarity today.
8. You don’t have to deal with a crazy ex situation
This is partially because they have dealt with their exes in the most gentlemanly manner possible and also because their ex probably isn’t crazy. Neither is talking about his ex a sensitive issue, nor is it likely to be awkward in case you chance upon them when you are out together, because your guy and his ex parted on good terms. You know exactly how he is in a relationship, so when someone who wears his heart on his sleeve decides that it is time for a relationship to end, there is no bitterness, no hate, no ill-feeling, just a lot of mutual respect and understanding between two individuals. This also assures you for the future, because you know that should things go south in your relationship, you will not have to fight it out or get a restraining order.
9. They will always make you feel good about yourself
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Sometimes, practical solutions and logical discussions are the last things you need when you are feeling upset. Sometimes, you just need someone telling you how awesome you are and how amazing you can be and how pretty you look. This might sound shallow, but most of the time a little boost to your self-confidence can work miracles when you have to face problems and crises head on. Guys who wear their heart on their sleeves tell you exactly what is on their mind, and if they are in love with you, the last thing they are going to do is be coy about lavishing compliments on you. Sometimes, that is all a girl really needs.
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10. They fall in love quickly, but honestly
People are oftentimes wary about dating a guy who wears their heart on his sleeve because they are afraid that they fall in and out of love way too quickly. While the former has some sort of truth to it, the fact that they fall out of love as quickly is not a fact at all. In fact, even though they seem to love a lot and very frequently, the depth and seriousness of their love is consistent and dependable; so one thing that you will never have to ask yourself is, “does he really love me?”
Although there are a hundred more reasons why it is always a good idea to date a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve, it is these ten reasons why they appear so incredibly appealing for anyone looking for a serious (or flirtatious) relationship.
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