You’re in love with someone and luckily enough that person loves you back. If you want to be with them long term and stay committed to each other, then there are certain things you need to keep in mind. Love and commitment don’t come easily and no matter how much you love each other, things can always go wrong. Real relationships are much more than chemistry and compatibility. Real loving relationships are not going to be perfect all the time, but how couples address life’s challenges together is a good way to measure the relationship’s love and commitment.
When obstacles do arise, you need to be prepared to prove that your love is a commitment that you’re never going to go back on. Here are ten easy steps that you can use for showing your partner that your love is as real as it gets.
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1. Be true to who you are
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Love and commitment are very important when it comes to being in a relationship with someone else, but being yourself is equally important. When you get into a relationship, you tend to change yourself to fit the other’s preferences without even realizing it. You feel like it’s your job to adapt to their needs, but that’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make in a relationship. Sure, wearing blue because your partner likes it is just fine, but don’t go to the extent where you become a different person altogether.
2. Take time off
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You love each other and you want to spend every minute you can get together. But there is a limit for everything, and you need some solo time to do the things you like. Personal time and space is something that the two of you should never give up. Make time to see your own friends and do activities without your significant other. Spending time apart will strengthen your relationship because you are strengthening yourself as an individual.
3. Never say “I’ll leave you”
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Nothing reflects love without commitment like you saying inflammatory things during an argument that imply you might want to end the relationship. You might forget about it and write it off as just something you said while you both were fighting. But if you keep threatening to end the relationship during every disagreement, then you can’t blame your loved one for thinking that you’re not in it for the long haul. It’s natural to have these thoughts in the heat of the moment, but saying these things out loud is detrimental to your relationship in the long run.
4. Fight sensibly
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It’s impossible for a couple to never fight or have a difference of opinion. You are two different individuals, and disagreements are bound to happen from time to time. But you should not panic at the first sign of conflict. Instead of yelling and hurling accusations at each other, try to listen to your partner and come up with a solution that works for both you. This will only help in bringing you closer.
5. Compromise. It helps
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It can be hard to compromise – no one really wants to sacrifice their own wants and needs for somebody else’s. But a relationship will never work if you don’t compromise with one another. You always go for dinner to the restaurant that you like or you create a scene when they cannot complete their bit of the house chores. These little things add up, and they don’t help your partner feel appreciated and loved. Try compromising a few times and your relationship will most probably improve.
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6. Keep the spark alive
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You know each other inside out. You’ve been with each other long enough that you could probably write a book about each other. But monotony can creep in at any time, which is why you need to make sure that the romance between the two of you never dies out. Maintain high levels of physical intimacy and do things together that make you two feel connected. Surprise them by acting out their favorite fantasy or just send a flirty text in the middle of the day. It always helps!
7. Stick to the truth
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When you’re in it for the long haul, you need your relationship to be built on a solid foundation. If you are committed to being together, you should also commit to being truthful with one another, no matter what happens. Your partner should have an accurate picture of the person that they are planning to spend their life with. If they find out that you have been lying to them or not telling them the full truth, it will really hurt because you’re that one person that they trust more than anyone else. You don’t want to change that!
8. Love unconditionally
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I’m not telling you to love every person you ever date unconditionally. But if you are planning a future with this person, you need to love them without any conditions. You need to make peace with their past and accept the person that they are now and love them for it. You should always consider their needs alongside your own so that they always feel valued in the relationship. Just make sure that it isn’t one-sided!
9. Make long term plans
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This is one of the best ways to make your partner believe that you are committed to them and your relationship. Spend some time planning your future together. This could mean planning a vacation together, looking to buy a house together, or even beginning to plan your wedding if you are ready to take that step. Share your future career plans and discuss goals and dreams that you want to achieve. It may seem far off in the future, but it’s important to discuss these things if you are serious about planning your lives together.
10. Just be there
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This is what matters the most. Appreciate your partner and be there by their side when they need you. If you can’t, then it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship. Your partner should always feel like they can turn to you for comfort and advice. Support them with their decisions and encourage them when they’re down.
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If you are truly committed to and in love with your partner, all of these points should feel natural to you. But even if it does, relationships still take work and not everything will come easily. Successful relationships require continuous effort to sustain and grow.
So, if you’re up for working this hard for someone, you know what steps to follow. Good luck!
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