Does your single status bother you? Are you not at peace with yourself? If it is a “yes” to both of these questions, we have a lot to work on! I don’t know if you are aware of this, but we tend to treat others the way we treat ourselves. In that case, dating yourself gives you a chance to get in touch with what you are really looking for in a relationship. It helps you connect with how it is that you want to be loved; how much space are you willing to give your partner, and how much space do you, yourself, need.
This ritual of self-dating will give you an opportunity to see all that you have in your life. You will not only be thankful for it but will also realize that you can live up to your own desires without having to depend on anyone else; you don’t need another person to complete you as you are whole by yourself. Now that’s a good feeling, right?
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So here are 10 reasons why one must date themselves without feeling guilty or uncomfortable about it.
1. You need to spend some “me-time”!
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To put it in other words, you must allot some time to be by yourself! Take yourself out for dinner or maybe cocktails. That does not hurt! I know it seems a little awkward, out of the norm kind of thing, sitting by yourself in a café or a restaurant. But it is important for you to learn how to enjoy your own company. You need to be content with your own self, and not get intimidated by the happy parties of two or more you are surrounded by at the bistro! It is only when you cherish your own company that you realize you are truly happy. You might just get to know what a delightful company you are to people!
2. Remember, no one will ever love you the way you love yourself
“Self-love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.” – Beau Taplin
Self-love is an essential thing! Dating yourself is vital before you go looking out for love in the social jungle of life. You should be your number 1 fan, buddy! Even if you think no one loves you quite as much as you want them to, it should not matter a great deal. Believe it or not, the love you have in your heart for yourself is enough; it is the only love that you need. If you don’t find that romantic, then I don’t know what to tell you!
3. You need not stress over what you order!
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Dating yourself means worrying no more about the food you order! You don’t need to seek someone’s approval (read: a sarcastic comment!) when you order a Caesar Salad, or be at the receiving end of raised eyebrows when you eat a little more than “what you are supposed to!” Also, you have no reason to impress your partner with your skills of using a pair of chopsticks! When you date your own awesome self, you can order a juicy steak, one that has been on your mind for more than a month now, without any second thoughts! I know you should be choosing the food you want to eat regardless of whether you are dating and who you are dating, but there is a phenomenal feeling that you have when you relish a delicious, lip-smacking meal, without having to share it with someone else! You get to taste every bit of that indulgent bite!
4. Tête-à-têtes don’t need more than one participant!
You think I am crazy, don’t you? “Is this woman telling me to take notice of the voices in my head?” If that’s what you are thinking, then hell yeah, I am talking about that! When you try to find solitude in a crowd, you are actually devoting time to find your real self that has slipped deep inside your pretentious little being, a façade you have created to fool the people around you! So take yourself out for dinner because you won’t be forced to make small talk or laugh without a reason! That is crazier, don’t you think!
Dating yourself can be a great way of exploring your thoughts and to take delight in your dreams. There will be no one to judge you, or offer their opinions about you and what you think! It will be just you and your roving mind!
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5. None of the “let’s split the check” kinda uncomfortable situations!
You know what is better than a good sumptuous meal? One that does not come with some real awkward “Are you going to pay? Or should I pay? I think we should go Dutch!” moments! When you go on a date with yourself, you are absolutely sure of how it will end! Don’t you think eliminating this splitting the bill discussion makes up for whatever weirdness you feel about dining all by yourself? See? Silver linings!!
6. No compromises!
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It is a corollary of dating yourself! When you go on a date without anyone, you need not argue about where you want to go v. where you should go! Or how you should be spending your weekends! You can make all these decisions all by yourself! The bottom line is, you don’t need to please anyone other than yourself! Don’t you think this is the best opportunity for you to be a little selfish? You have always wanted to start writing your first novel, right? This is the perfect time for you to begin scribbling! Or let us fire up with smaller goals may be, like indulging in that upscale cafeteria or going on an all-girls vacation to a different city, on a different continent?! I know, I know, I am getting ambitious again, but can’t you see? You won’t get a better occasion than this! You can simply do whatever it is that you want to, and that, my friend, is a glorious thing!
7. It is full of surprises!
When you date yourself, you have no clue what to expect! You don’t have a particular set of plans, and that makes this whole deal a kind of an adventure! It is mysterious and that adds to the excitement! You just have to be confident to have maximum fun out of this whole awesome situation, you have put yourself into. When you carry an elusive air about you, people magically find you more attractive and are easily allured to you. An evening that began with a martini with a twist all by yourself could easily turn into a spontaneous night out with the most amazing stranger, who too may have brought himself out on a date, what say!
8. A good book is more than a good friend!
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It can be your boyfriend! A book is undoubtedly your ticket to a magical experience! Exploring a world that is outside of your own and thereby, escaping reality for a while, now nothing can beat that, right? It is cathartic and therapeutic, what a book can do to you. So you dining all by yourself need not be boring when you are allowed to venture into a new plot and discover the life of a new character or characters. Your favorite writers are the best company you will ever get, trust me. Moreover, if you hate being bothered by other people or those annoying jerks making passes at you, a book is a sure fire way of ensuring the solitude in your me-date.
9. You must take out time to ask yourself some necessary questions
Facing the difficult questions in life seems overwhelming, doesn’t it? But you cannot continue avoiding them by drowning yourself in company and keeping yourself too busy. While you may be socially present, introspectively, you will be totally silent. So it is essential that you take some time out and analyze a few of these vital queries to find the true answers to them. That is how you will find inner peace, by reflecting on your inner self.
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10. You must like yourself enough so that you can treat yourself well
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One should never feel awkward about doing things that they have always wanted to do for himself or herself. It could be an elaborate movie date, an overpriced dress or a trip to the moon. C’mon! You deserve some love, some pampering, and that is the last thing you need an S.O. for. When one is comfortable in their own skin, they realize that they are the only person they need to satisfy. You must start treating yourself like a prince or princess, and your time starts now!
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